DD is driving me insane lately. She is 8yo and has become very cheeky and loves to argue with me any chance she gets.
I have had issues with the way she behaves when we have have company-she can be a real show off and likes to push boundaries when she thinks I won't be worried about keeping her in check.
Today I could've died with embarrassment at the way she 'performed' when a tradesman came over to give me a quote. She was interrupting every five mins, was very cheeky in front of the poor man and gave the impression she rules and reigns the house and all in it.
I waited until he had gone and I had stopped seething and told her it wasn't on and sent her to her room.
Trouble is as soon as I relent she completely forgets what's gone before and is back to thinking all is well. Trouble is the more she does this the longer it takes me to recover from being very cross with the.
This evening we are watching TV and she insists on talking the whole way through the programme. I feel I cannot even sit quietly without having to answer her every question and then when I answer she tells me I'm wrong anyway!
Putting her to bed is a nightmare. She will try every trick in the book to stretch it out and will invent ailments, reasons and excuses to buy more time. 9/10 times she will be back down the stairs for one reason or another.
I'm starting to feel like I just don't like being around her anymore.
I hate myself for feeling this way but I just feel like a tightly coiled spring that will go at any given moment too often for my liking.
She seems to have a cast iron will and simply listens to nothing I say unless I am very sharp with her. I feel I need to be this way to get a response but surely no one can live like this indefinitely?
I'm divorced and she sees ex-hb often. He is not supportive of these issues as she doesn't behave like this with him and if I ever do bring it up he will put it down to me being inconsistent with my boundaries or spoiling her etc etc. In short he is her dad when he has her and the rest is up to me.
I decided to type this because after a day of her back chat, complaining and disobedience I almost smacked her when she ignored a simple question. I left the room to calm down and told her I needed to be alone for a few minutes. After going back in to tuck her in she asked me for a cuddle after I gave her her goodnight kiss and I'm sad to say I rejected her. I couldn't cuddle anyone I was cross with and on this occasion she was no exception.
I'm starting to feel this is going to be my life on a daily basis-when I am only near feeling relaxed when she is asleep and I am alone. It doesn't sound like much of a life.
Whilst everyone else enjoys being around their DC's I have to say it's the last thing I feel like doing more often than not and the very thought is enough to bring tears to my eyes.