DD and Make Up

[Chiefwitchfromdownsouth]

DD just turned 12 wants to wear make up. I think 12 is far too early to wear make up and have told Dd this. So instead of doing as asked she borrows make up from friends at school and has taken my lipstick without asking . Not sure what to do, any advice would be much appreciated.

could she not have light sheer colours of her own to practice with.

the problem is I can't see why she needs to practice at the age of 12 .

I think my DD was this age when she wanted to experiment with make-up - you may think she is too young, but think how you could use this time as a great pre-teen "discussion time" with your DD. If you ban it completely and all her friends are doing it she will do what she has already done- get stuff from her friends etc. I assume you are worried that she will look "over made-up", but she won't if you spend time with her showing her how to wear minimum amounts and how to apply it properly so it enhances her face rather than makes her look like Coco the clown.

I did this with my DD- bought her a few very pastel coloured items and we had fun trying them out, used the time to talk about spots, periods, hygiene, looking after yourself etc Made it clear it was not for wearing every day and not to school,but she enjoyed experimenting with it for parties and social events. Now 16 she still only wears it for social events and it looks nice.

I think it is a perfectly normal part of growing up really.

I totally agree with schoolchauffeur. There are lots of sheer, barely-there lipglosses, mineral powders and eyeshadows aorund at the moment, she will think all her Christmases have come at once if you get her some and in reality they're hardly noticeable.

Bucking against it completely won't work, it's going to happen with or without your consent. Getting her some bits gives you a position of 'power' - ie not for school or it's banned.

My DDs have both occasionally worn make up for fun and to social events or to town from about 10.

It's not allowed at school.

I very rarely wear make up so they tend to put some on one day then forget for weeks.

I've never seen what the big deal is with girls and make up. So long as it's for fun and not, they won't leave the house without it, I don't mind.

I do mind DD1 getting teased for obeying the rules and not wearing it to school.
Despite it being banned, orange pandas are common!

Seems I'm behind the times . I certainly don't want her going to school with her face plastered, so a not to school ban will have to be agreed.

Trouble is Dd wants to wear all the "wrong stuff" to school...e.g. dangling earrings, when I suggested that she wears her 'dangleys' this weekend (visiting friends in London) she looked at me as though I had two heads.

I'll suggest a girly shopping trip (better use of her pocket money than sweets) and experiment session/sessions , with some sheer stuff and see how we go.

Thanks for the advice, much appreciated.

I don't think you are behind the times, Chief. As a mum to boys, I can only glean advice from darling neices and my sister and I think most people, including my sis, feel the same as you - who would want their dd trussed up and looking rediculous?

You seem prepared to at least try so it gives you some room for bargaining. Good Luck!

my dd is 8.9 and has just spent her savings on quite a few products from superdrugs MUA range.

its £1 a piece.

its just for play, indoors.

Went to Asda- old George never lets me down- between £1 -£1.50 per item!! We've agreed on mascara, eyeshadow and lip gloss as long the "over made up tart" look is avoided and make-up is definitely not allowed at school.

Thanks HerrBurton.... I was beginning to think I'd stepped back in time

I started wearing make-up at 12...but then I was a moody, goffick sulky (pre) teenager. My mum let me dye my hair bright pink at 13. I toned the make-up down at school obviously...until I was about 13 or 14, then I used to get in trouble all the time because of it. Ahhh rites of passage. Not that I'm condoning that approach obviously, but I got good grades, and have yet to develop extra limbs or have 5 squillion babies.

Scarlettlady

But do you have extra eyeballs and 3 million babies????

I started with make up at twelve and then stopped pretty soon afterwards - too lazy! Rediscovered when in sixth form.

I think i was about 10/12 when I was boutgh my first vanity case for my birthday, I loved it loved putting the make up on but had no idea of how to put it on properly (and still dont) and realised i looked very silly and gave up. I experimented again a lot in my teens but could never work it out, it always made me look worse than wothout (I wouldnt say I was perticularly pretty either) even now I rerely wear the stuff maybe a bt of mascara or eyeliner if were going out. Maybe if you just leave her to it she might grow out of the phase for a little while. My mum never wears make up so wadnt able to 'show' me how to apply it properly.

No extra eyeballs...they are different colours though is spooky I have one DD, the thought of three, let alone 3 million actually makes me scared...

Oh pants, I didn't realise asterisks did that...I was trying to be clever >_

After all the fuss, DD can't be bothered to put her make up on and I'm reminding her- can you believe it???????