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Late walker? Let me reassure you!

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suzimum · 20/04/2012 14:05

Hi all,

I have had a lot of support on mumsnet since DS was born in Dec 09 and I would love to share the story of his walking to reassure anyone who is the slightest bit worried about their LO's development.

DS took his first unaided steps at 25 months, but was not walking confidently until almost 26 months. As my first child I had scoured the internet for advice and guidance but found very little - I could not find any child who had walked later than about 22 months. We had been referred to a paediatrician at 18 months, who failed to find anything wrong and then had a follow up at 22 months, who again said that since DS was now attempting to pull himself up there was progress and all we could do was encourage it. My concern was that something may be wrong with his inner ear (having read about this online) but he reassured me that DS would have been showing signs of being off balance or disorientated for this to be the case.

DS was not premature. He only started to bottom shuffle at 12 months and then at about 15 months developed what I named "the cruffle" - a very efficient crawl-shuffle hybrid, but he did not actually crawl on hands and knees until about 18-19 months and resisted any attempts to walk with me or DP holding his hands. And he refused to try any kind of walker. He only started to pull up onto his knees at 18 months and then to his feet around 22 months and do a little bit of cruising.

I grew sick and tired of all the "helpful" advice from people about how lucky I was that he wasnt walking and "just you wait til he walks, you won't have a minute to yourself!" I looked enviously at mothers of 12 month olds who were toddling around the park.

When he finally took his first steps (rather irritatingly my mother got him to walk holding his hands, grrr!) we were all so encouraging, but it was several weeks later that he actually took his first unaided steps, and typically, it was when he was at the childminder's house!

Now at 27 months he can run around as well as any child his age. He is a little behind with climbing up stairs, but that will come. Both myself and my DP were late walkers at around 17 and 18 months but after 20 months I was beginning to worry.

I would advise anyone in the same situation to have their LO checked out at 18 months but for any future LOs I will be a lot more chilled out! My heart does go out to anyone in the same situation because no one wants their child to be "behind" in any way.

xx

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Olivetti · 04/05/2012 14:17

Hi Catfan, thanks for your post. Great news about your son! When you say he didn't walk until 20 months, do you mean he couldn't take unaided steps until then, or he didn't walk all the time? I'm in a weird position now - if I put DD down on her feet, she walks off around the house, but left to her own devices she generally cruises or knee walks. So has she achieved the walking "milestone" or not?? It's so confusing.

cocoachannel · 06/05/2012 11:01

Very interesting posts all round thank you. I came on to MN today to find some information on walking as at 14 months DD isn't walking which wouldn't worry me were it not or all of the Hmm faces I get when people ask if she's walking and I say no!

StarMeKitten · 06/05/2012 13:52

cocoachannel my 16 mo isn't walking yet either. Thought the average was 13 months anyway so really don't think you have anything to worry about at this stage.

I must confess I can't stop myself worrying about my DD, but she is cruising so I guess she will get there in her own time.

Thanks for starting this thread OP, and lovely to hear everyone's success stories.

Olivetti sounds like your DD has achieved the walking milestone, she's just nervous. My DD is very nervous about walking too so I can see her being just like yours.

Chrissayeth · 02/04/2024 14:39

suzimum · 20/04/2012 14:05

Hi all,

I have had a lot of support on mumsnet since DS was born in Dec 09 and I would love to share the story of his walking to reassure anyone who is the slightest bit worried about their LO's development.

DS took his first unaided steps at 25 months, but was not walking confidently until almost 26 months. As my first child I had scoured the internet for advice and guidance but found very little - I could not find any child who had walked later than about 22 months. We had been referred to a paediatrician at 18 months, who failed to find anything wrong and then had a follow up at 22 months, who again said that since DS was now attempting to pull himself up there was progress and all we could do was encourage it. My concern was that something may be wrong with his inner ear (having read about this online) but he reassured me that DS would have been showing signs of being off balance or disorientated for this to be the case.

DS was not premature. He only started to bottom shuffle at 12 months and then at about 15 months developed what I named "the cruffle" - a very efficient crawl-shuffle hybrid, but he did not actually crawl on hands and knees until about 18-19 months and resisted any attempts to walk with me or DP holding his hands. And he refused to try any kind of walker. He only started to pull up onto his knees at 18 months and then to his feet around 22 months and do a little bit of cruising.

I grew sick and tired of all the "helpful" advice from people about how lucky I was that he wasnt walking and "just you wait til he walks, you won't have a minute to yourself!" I looked enviously at mothers of 12 month olds who were toddling around the park.

When he finally took his first steps (rather irritatingly my mother got him to walk holding his hands, grrr!) we were all so encouraging, but it was several weeks later that he actually took his first unaided steps, and typically, it was when he was at the childminder's house!

Now at 27 months he can run around as well as any child his age. He is a little behind with climbing up stairs, but that will come. Both myself and my DP were late walkers at around 17 and 18 months but after 20 months I was beginning to worry.

I would advise anyone in the same situation to have their LO checked out at 18 months but for any future LOs I will be a lot more chilled out! My heart does go out to anyone in the same situation because no one wants their child to be "behind" in any way.

xx

Hi I know this thread is over 10 years old now, wow! Also wondering if you still post on this site now but would be great to hear how your son has progressed through school.l physically and such? My son is 3 and didn't walk till 22 months but he is still behind as he doesn't jump yet. I don't know if this was a milestone your son was behind with? Also physio said he will always be behind I worry for him in P.E when he goes to school and finding that a struggle. He's also speech delayed, am going to get him assessed for ASD

suzimum · 02/04/2024 15:01

Hi Chrissayeth,

I haven't been on Mumnet for years and had indeed completely forgotten I'd ever written this post until I had an email notification about it!

My son was also speech delayed and I had him checked for hearing issues but he was given a clean bill of health. He went on to develop normally and is now a thriving 14 year old, excelling in all his subjects at school and a keen tennis player who just won his first tournament.

I don't remember much about his jumping I'm afraid but his late walking and speaking have had no ill effect on his development whatsoever so I hope it will be the same for your son! I was so worried at the time though, so I completely understand what you are going through.

Good luck!
Suzi x

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Chrissayeth · 02/04/2024 15:52

suzimum · 02/04/2024 15:01

Hi Chrissayeth,

I haven't been on Mumnet for years and had indeed completely forgotten I'd ever written this post until I had an email notification about it!

My son was also speech delayed and I had him checked for hearing issues but he was given a clean bill of health. He went on to develop normally and is now a thriving 14 year old, excelling in all his subjects at school and a keen tennis player who just won his first tournament.

I don't remember much about his jumping I'm afraid but his late walking and speaking have had no ill effect on his development whatsoever so I hope it will be the same for your son! I was so worried at the time though, so I completely understand what you are going through.

Good luck!
Suzi x

Thanks for your reply. Glad to hear how well your son is doing and that it didn't hold him back later on. It was just a bit jarring when the physio said "he will always be a bit behind" which is a bit negative if I'm honest! Yeah my husband was a late walker so hoping it's just related to that and he will be fine as he gets older. Congratulations to your son with his tennis!

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