10 month old having screeching tantrums

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My 10 month old DD has started throwing mini tantrums. I think that its partly due to frustratuon but at times it is highly embarrasing and I dont know what to do, as at the moment I feel I am just pandering to her.
She isnt yet crawling but loves to trot aroungd holding on to an adults hands, she is very quick on her feet but always needs assistance. She screams when she gets stuck on her tummy or wants to be waliking around. Today she had a really high pitched sreeching tantrum as she didnt want to be in the high chair at the cafe I was in. I was really trying to ignore her but it got a bit embarrasing when people started to look to see what the noise was, Im almost put off taking her out now! Any on got any advice or having the same thing?

It will be tough but remove her from the situation. She sounds like a bright kid and wants to join in.

Get her books and small toys that she can hold and swap them over regularly so she doesn't get bored with them. Have finger puppets at the ready and snacks like chopped up bananas and books designed for a baby with tactile pages.

At home if she screams remove her from the room and put her in her nursery or a room where she cannot hurt herself and leave for five minutes. Check. Reassure. Check. Reassure. Check. Reassure but do not pick her up or give her treats.

Stay close and reassure again until the tantrum subsides. Then when it has subsided reassure and cuddle and give milk or water but NOT treats.

Never scream or shout, stay calm and DO NOT give in. Calm and reassure. Calm and reassure is the mantra.

This was advice from my Grandmother and it saved my sanity.

I'm not sure I'd leave a 10mo old baby for 5 minutes in response to a normal developmental behaviour (unless the alternative was that I'd throw them out the window ) - I may be a softie but that's a lifetime! Even time out is only a minute per year of life.You can't spoil a 10m old baby as afaik they don't understand consequence. Though I agree taking them out the situation for a cuddle and a moment of calm can help. DD used to do this from this age but distraction is the key, especially in public places where it's not easy to leave. In fact talking of keys, jangling a set of keys enticingly in her face usually did it in emergencies, as did food - a breadstick or something, or letting her sit on my lap for a bit before putting her back in the highchair and totally agree with having an arsenal of small toys and books. Avoiding tiredness (easier said than done!), hunger etc helped as I found she tolerated change and frustration much easier when dry, full and well rested. Just a thought but she might just be going through a massive developmental spurt and be all calm again by next week too! Ps have you got/ can you borrow a push along walker thing so she can walk around by herself and give your back a rest?

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Thanks guys, Yes my back is killing from all the trailing behind her bent over helping her to walk! wish she would crawl!

Will try the distraction idea, I feel it often happens when she wants something and can almost picture what a "terrible two" she will be... screaming till she gets what she wants.

its so easy from an outsider isnt it but when its your own child it all changes!
I never thought I would 'panda' or 'give in' but when your child is screeching in public, you just want them to stop!

Must take more toys and things out with me - we always carry plenty of snacks but shes often not interested in food and just enjoys dropping it on the floor- in fact this was half the problem,
I did give her a spoon or the tuppaware pot to play with but she kept dropping it so in the end i couldnt be bothered to keep getting up and pick them off the floor, I think that was when she had had enough of the high chair and wanted to get out...

I guess this is what its all about!

She sounds quite similar to my 10mo, with not wanting to crawl and always wanting to be walked around. She doesn't much like sitting in her high chair either, and fusses to be out whenever she's done eating.

I normally time cafe visits for lunch or snack time, let her stand on my knees or in the floor by my feet, and distract her with toys. I don't really think of it as giving in to her, more that she's just too young to sit still for long and learning to control impulses is something she'll learn to do as she gets older. I let her get a little bit frustrated just so she starts to learn, but I normally just follow her lead and remember that this stage won't last long - soon they'll be walking and talking and much less frustrated :)

My 10 month old has just started the temper tantrums, but has just learnt to crawl, and a lot of the tantrums are because we are trying to remove her from the tv or fireplace.

The screaming is also accompanied with flinging herself backwards, at swimming last week she got in such a tizzy, she was pushing herself off the changing bench by kicking me and made herself sick with screaming, this was in the space of about 2 minutes, I tried everything to calm her down in the end my friend gave her a breadstick, which she had refused from me at the start of the tantrum.

Am dreading the terrible two's.

My dd was similar at 10 months, screaming the house down if I didn't give her EXACTLY what she wanted (I too was a bit concerned about what 'terrible twos' would bring...!)

Your dd sounds very switched on. Must admit I never left mine mid-tantrum but just remained calm, didn't give her loads of gushy attention, but didn't completely ignore her, offered her a different toy/tried singing a song with her (distraction) or tickling her.

If she was hysterical & inconsolable, I just made sure the area around her was safe and rode it out. When she was a bit older I found talking quietly and calmly to her on my knees helped, as if we were having a chat.

Don't be embarrassed! I went to Mothercare when I was preg with dd2 & dd had the all mightiest of meltdowns. I'm not usually embarrassed as oft someone in the queue smiles at you sympathetically, but this time they all stared at me like I was terrible mum with a terrible urchin child!! sod em! I can laugh about it now & very proud to be mum of such a 'spirited' little girl (age 2 now and only about one or two small tantrums a week if that nothing like before.
Good luck, won't last forever