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Is it a girl thing!?

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poppiesinaline · 09/02/2006 11:25

Tell me please someone - NAGGING! My DD nags me incessantly. She goes on and on and on. She sounds like an old woman!! She is driving me nuts. She is nearly 6. Any ideas on how to stop her!? Have tried the 'if you ask me again the answer is no', tried time out, tried star charts any other ideas?

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perfumelady · 09/02/2006 11:38

my dd is the same she started around the age of six she is now 8, i try to change the subject and hopes she forgets what she was just going on about , works sometimes. also i have just ignored her but that makes her worse, sometimes depending on the situation i just say no and mean it and she then knows by my tone not to mention it again. i think the easiset thing to do is give in to what they are asking for, just for the quiet life but that is def' the worst thing to do because that is why they do it again and again cause they know you will give in, guess the secret is to not give in. harder said than done i know.

Twiglett · 09/02/2006 11:40

no boys do it too

does that help?

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poppiesinaline · 09/02/2006 13:33

really!? My DS is 9 and is fine so nagging is a new thing to me! Its not a case of giving in to her or not: For example - this is how lunchtime went today - (shes home from school ill btw)

I was changing DS nappy.

DD - mummy, I'm hungry. When is lunch?
Me - I will get you lunch as soon as I have finished changing DS nappy
1 min later
DD - is lunch ready yet?
Me - No, I am still changing DS nappy. I will do lunch when I have finished.
DD- but I am hungry
Me - I know you are hungry. I am busy right now. I will do lunch when I have finished changing DS nappy

I finish nappy and go into the kitchen

DD - is lunch ready yet?
Me - DD, I have just got into the kitchen. I am doing lunch right now.
DD - MUMMMEEEEE! Why isn't it ready yet?
Me - DD, I am doing it right now. Will you stop nagging me.
DD - stomp, stomp stomp. Sits at table

1 min later
DD - Is it ready yet?
Me - Nearly
DD - how many minutes
Me - 2 minutes
DD - OOOOOOOOOO HHHHHH MUMMEEEE
Me - DD, If you do not stop talking to me like that you will have to wait longer for your lunch.

Lunch is put in front of her. She eats lunch. I am in middle of mine when she finishes

DD - Mummy, Can I have my pudding please?
Me - I am in the middle of eating my lunch. When I have finished my lunch I will get you your pudding
DD - How long will it take for you to finish your lunch?
Me - 2 minutes
DD - how long is 2 minutes. Is is long
Me - no it isn't long
DD - can you hurry up and make it 1 minute?
Me - If you leave me alone, I can eat it quicker!

etc etc

I am sure I don't need to go on, I am sure you get the pattern!!!

And she is like this over most things all day, every day. HHEELLLPPP!!!

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katyp · 09/02/2006 14:02

Sounds just like my ds ! (4.7)

paolosgirl · 09/02/2006 14:03

No, boys do it as well. It's called being a child

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poppiesinaline · 09/02/2006 14:03

LOL

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tortoiseshell · 09/02/2006 14:16

Ds does this the whole time, drives me totally mad.

sunnydelight · 09/02/2006 14:37

My DD is only 3 but does it all the time. It drives me absolutely nuts and neither of my boys did it. If I tell her that we are going to do something she goes on and on at 30 second intervatls until it happens. Now I only tell her what we are doing if it is really imminent. She does the same at mealtimes "is it ready yet?". I was desperately hoping that it was just a phase that she would grow out of SOON, but your post isn't reassuring!

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poppiesinaline · 09/02/2006 16:19

Nice to know I am not alone!! No words of wisdom then!

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poppiesinaline · 09/02/2006 20:05

Obviously not then!!

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missd · 09/02/2006 21:06

Hi I have 2 dd's one is 4 and nags the other is 2 and I'm sure will follow.
I pretend I can't hear her, especially if she uses THAT voice. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I don't think there's much we can do beside buy a job lot of ear plugs and sell them on MN

MaggieT · 09/02/2006 21:07

My dd (3) tells me off in the middle of the Co-op for not having made a list of what me need! WTF?

MaggieT · 09/02/2006 21:07

My dd (3) tells me off in the middle of the Co-op for not having made a list of what we need! WTF?

Hulababy · 09/02/2006 21:14

I have a nearly 4yo DD and yes, she nags me - and everyone else! But always with a lovely big, sweet smile!!!

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat · 09/02/2006 21:38

dd1 - 5 went through a phase of this and it drove me mad. it was quite horrid cos I got nagging rage and it would all blow up horribly. In semi-calm moments i'd issue clear threats "if you mention pudding again you won't get any" but tbh it didn't work - cos she (genuinely I think) forgot. I think it's one of those things where (with hindsight ) distraction is the best way forward. Really hard to think of a suitable activity when you are trying to sort out nappy and wondering what you can do really quickly for lunch but I do think there are times when getting lunch 5 minutes later but spending the interim with a colouring book is better all round than getting lunch as quick as possible, iyswim

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