DS cries whenever we take him somewhere

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My DS is 3mths old and whenever we take him to someone's house he is really unsettled and just whines and cries for no reason. Yesterday we went to visit a friends new baby and he was ok for a bit then just whined. I think they got sick of the crying after a while. If I held him or my DP did then he'd stop for a bit but wouldn't really settle with anyone else.

He did the same the weekend before and also cries if I take him up the shops. It is starting to get me down now because I think twice about taking him anywhere because nobody wants a whiney baby visiting. It also results in people asking us if he is hungry, tired etc and of course it's never that.

Any tips on how to get him used to other environments?

We went through the exact same thing with DS. From the minute he was born he screamed within about 20 mins of us going anywhere with him- not happy in his pram or car seat even with us carrying him it was an utter nightmare so I really sympathise with you. It resulted in me feeling like i couldn't anywhere with him- we never went out for food or shopping because ultimately it would end up in him screaming bloody murder (he could scream too) and people tutting at us. As a result I became very isolated and I think this contributed to my PND. I am very jealous of those who have angel babies who sleep and feed and you can take them anywhere. I know people say "they're babies they are going to cry don't worry about what others say" but it isn't as simple as that is it?
I'd like to say I have an answer for you but I don't my DS grew out of it eventually and now he is an absolute angel when we go anywhere (he is 3). Could you have someone look after him whilst you go shopping or visitng friends so that you can do what you need to do without the constant worry. Don't worry it gets better with time

My dd used to do this. She did spend the first 5 months of her life with a face like this It was a nightmare going anywhere.

It will pass

If you or dp holding him reassures him I'd plan to do that while visiting.

So it's just a case of they grow out of it?

Would it help if I took him out more and got him used to new environments like other family member's houses?

Is he ok when he is at your house? Is he generally unsettled after feeds or colicky? My DS was just very unsettled most of the time really- he seemed to cry for most of the day- he wasn't a great sleeper and would disturb at the slightest noise and would hardly nap in the daytime but would then get over tired and work himself up into a frenzy .
If it is a case of just when you go out maybe you could try holding him to keep him close and settle him down. The first few months are precious but they can also be incredibly difficult especially if you have a fractious baby but trust what everyone has said here it pass.My DS is a little angel now (most of the time)

He's not unsettled after feeds and he's ok at home most of the time but has also got used to being picked up and won't play alone for long.

I'll just have to try the tips you've all mentioned and hope it won't last long

My little one is 11 weeks and needs to be held a lot and I cannot take him out/to the shops using the pram without red faced screaming. After our first outings, I also felt that I will not be able to go out with him as it made me nervous. However, as he was ok being held/rocked, I discovered that he is very happy in a sling in most environments. Since ditching the pram, we are out and about a lot and even hubby is using a carrier now.... I also put him into the sling when we visit other people's home when he is unsettled. This means I end up standing around swaying from side to side but it does not bother me. If you haven't tried a sling or carrier yet, it might be an option?

I hope you find something that works for you.