my 15 month old sleep issues

[oliviasma]

i have got my little one(15 month) into bad sleep habits, she only goes to sleep/naps if i lay with her in my bed then put her into her bed. She then wakes up almost immediately when i put her into her bed and goes crazy till i pick her up and do it all over again until she is too exhausted to wake up. If she wakes up in the night i try to deal with it in her cot but if it gets too silly i just take her into my bed where she still really messes about and i get hardly any sleep. I know this is my fault and i need to do something. i have tried controlled crying but she hit the roof and i couldn't bear it when she started hurting her throat from screaming. Any tips..??!!

The very same thing happened to a friend and her DS, and she finally went to a sleep therapist when the second LO that came along wouldn't sleep either. Turned out they both have sever reflux. I'd get her checked out if I were you. She's not just being difficult, there must be something wrong...

wow, ok i'll check that out, do you know what she was told to do about it?

My son just hated a cot. We co-slept because he hated being apart at night. At 10mo, I moved him into a single bed with bed-rails and lay down beside him (he was too big and wriggly to share with two of us).

He still takes a while to go to sleep (at 19mo) but doesn't wake very often in the night now. And if he does wake up, either my DH or I can cuddle him lying down shushing him, which does the trick.

I don't think you have started bad habits - maybe she is teething or going through a development spurt? Or just misses you at the moment?

Does she sleep ok with you?

she doesn't sleep that well with me but really really wants to, she woke thro the night last night in her cot so i brought her into bed aout 2-3am then she woke at 4am and it took me 2 hours to get her to go back to sleep. Sometimes she just has to lay as close as possible to me it's daft, i end up with her head on my cheek.
It's just that it's all the time, for naps too, she goes mad if i try and get up to go to the loo.
She's always been hard to settle but seems to be getting harder, maybe teething. .

Sorry, just saw she wriggles in with you too.

Hm, maybe teething? Bedtime too early so she's not ready to switch off?

Sorry I can't be more help, babies and toddlers are so hard to predict!!

she has a cot that turns into a bed, maybe i should try making ionto a bed with railings then??

ha! yes just when you think you have it a little sussed it all changes, thanks for the advice :)

She was called Alison Scott Wright and told my friend that her kids really wanted to sleep but couldn't because they kept waking up in pain. That would explain why your LO doesn't sleep well even with you... then they get into bad habits et al. My DD had reflux too but I took her to A&E when she was 6 wks old and they diagnosed her. It's v simple to fix with some medication and you can get rid of bad sleep associations, once they have kicked in. Good luck! Happy sleeping.