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Worried about my son's development, am I paranoid?

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Wiolla · 08/04/2012 20:52

Hi there, my son is is going to be 1 yo this week.

From the very early days he did not like to be rocked or held in a cuddling position. If you just hold him in a vertical position he is fine. Never liked tummy time and if put on the tummy immediatly flips over on the back. He likes lying on the back simolteniously flapping with his hands and legs. He rolls over quite well and can raise himself on his arms but not on all fours. He does not crawl but I can see sometimes he bottom shuffles. He stands with support and recently started attempts to pull himself up into a standing position with support. We were referred to physio and now do excersises to encourage crawling.

He recognises himself in the mirror, laughs at the familiar songs, can clap his hands, drinks from the beacker and eats fingerfood. He can roll the ball but mainly bashes his other toys with his hands or agains each other. He flips pages of the book and can press buttons on musical toys and books. He does not always respond to his name, but he does look at me when I enter the room and smiles. When he is upset or excited he raisis his arms and does circule gestures. When he plays byhimslef he does not look into my eyes or responds if I call him, but he has good eye contact during feeding and mimics sounds and sometimes faces, expresses joy or anger. He bubbles mama, vava etc and blows raspeberies since he was around 8 m old. He is being raised in the biligual environment.

I am concerned that he may have some delay in his brain development, has anyone had similar experiences with positive outcome?

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saintlyjimjams · 10/04/2012 22:46

He's too young for this yet really, but in 6 months time this website will be really helpful if you still have concerns (and hopefully you won't - children can change enormously between 12 and 18 months). It includes a video library showing typical and non-typical behaviour, I would have loved it to have been around when ds1 was 18 months.

www.firstsigns.org/

saintlyjimjams · 10/04/2012 22:47

sorry I meant to say good luck with it all, and please do try not to worry.

daytoday · 11/04/2012 11:22

If a young baby and child is very interested in what they are doing it can be hard for them to hear you, if you are calling their name.

I also read, that they are not able to filter sounds in the same way as adults - for example, if they are making noises, the radio is on and then you call their name - they cannot filter which sounds to respond to. So perhaps calling his name when he is doing something interesting can seem like a red herring.

I think in terms of the playing with other kids - that doesn't happen properly for ages. Do take your son to play groups and don't watch him - watch the other children and see what they are doing. Do make conversation and ask ages - because you may be comparing your son to much older children.

Wiolla · 12/04/2012 23:16

thank you very much for the reassurance. During his birthday party he actually smiled and one of the kids, who is only 2 weeks older than mine. He also got very upsaet that the kid took a toy from him.:) But I do think that he may have selective hearing becaus ehe is too absorbed in the game. The question is how to teach him to do other things, like follow my finger pointing at things etc if he is more intersted in his play...or just let it go for now?

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saintlyjimjams · 13/04/2012 00:07

wiolla - if development is typical you really don't have to teach things like following finger pointing as it just happens. Having said that books like the Sally Ward Babytalk book give lots of idea for games that will help with communication and attention etc and are worth doing with any child whether they have problem or not.

Wiolla · 19/04/2012 18:00

Saint, thank you so much for the book. It is really good and teaches you how to work with kinds, I wish I had it from the very beginning and it would probably help me to avoid some of the problems.

We have some news, we had our assessment today and were referred to the pediatrician. We had a choice to wait and see or to be reffered, needless to say we chose the latter. He more or less hit his milestones, but not perfct. Main concerns he does not follow comands (the question if wether he understands what he is told) and does not respond his name (but again not clear whether it is because he does not know it, or it is his personality), also he could not find a toy when it was hidden (to be hoest we never played this game). Anyway, it is wait and see now.

Is there anything we can do to encourage him to know his name? Did anyone had kids who started to distingish their names later than one year?

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Wiolla · 19/04/2012 18:01

Saint, also wanted to ask what do they actally do at the pediatrician/developmental centre?

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Wiolla · 19/04/2012 19:12

One more question, you mentioned to keep the diary. Is there any particular way to do so?

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