10 month old daughter will only sleep on me

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hi,
I have a happy beautiful 10 month old daughter she sleeps through the night and got her in a routine at 3months. I am back to work and her farther has her while i am working but the last week she wont sleep on him at all she works herself up, but as soon as i have her on me she will fall asleep, we both cant think of a reason why this has started anyone got any ideas? or anything that could help

Thank you

I am confused, what do you mean she won't sleep 'on' your husband but will sleep on you?

Would love to help once I understand and I had some terrible sleep issues with my DS1 when he was that age.

sorry i cuddle her until shes asleep then ill put her in her cot

Probably the issue is the fact that she can't self settle at all and you will probably need to come up with a plan to gradually get her used to falling asleep on her own.

I would do it very slowly and get her used to being nearly asleep and then putting her down.

HTH

Totally agree with girliefriend, this was exactly what we were doing. You must let her learn to go to sleep on her own.

We cuddled DS1 to sleep and he couldn't settle himself if he ever woke in the night, we eventually sorted it at over a year but were exhausted (we didn't make the same mistake with DS2).

Basically we started putting him down awake at his normal bedtime, saying goodnight, giving him his dummy then leaving the room. We listened to him cry for 5 mins (worst thing ever), went up and settled him again then did the same for 6, 7, 8 mins etc. In fact we never went past 7 minutes as he settled by then. If I'm honest it took about 10 days to get him completely going to sleep without even a murmur but he cried less and less each day. It really wasn't that bad as DH was there for support.

It only took us 1 night of him waking in the middle of the night, we got 5 minutes into 7 minutes (if you get what I mean) and that was it, he just went to sleep and never did it again.

We went to the sleep clinic (run by the health visitor), she talked us through it all, gave us a written plan, told us we had to start that evening and to call her with any questions. We really knew what to do but having someone telling us to do it and that it will really work just gave us the push we needed.

Lack of sleep is the worse thing ever!!!

that sounds really good ill talk to my health visitor on monday fingers crossed thanks :)

We never 'left' our DCs though, we were sat outside the door and it was only a few minutes. I never felt guilty, maybe I'm a bad person in some peoples opinions but I believe that I was doing it for my DS as much as us. He is a fab sleeper now.

Totally agree though, you have to be comfortable with whatever you do, we didn't do the controlled crying until we were ready. We were just desperate for sleep after over a year of pretty much none!

I agree Lou we used the same technique as you when he was 9 months he had been a great sleeper up untill then but then cut a couple of teeth, then a bit poorly, then a 10 day holiday so he was totally out of his routine. We only needed 3 days and all was back to normal.

Did I feel awful at the time? of course no parent wants to listen to their child cry.

Did I feel guilty? not at all we couldnt carry on with sleepless nights baby as much as us he needed to have a good night sleep too x