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2.7DS and 6month DD moving into same bedroom today- any advice?!

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ojbsmum · 06/04/2012 07:25

That basically says it all! I'm dreading it.
Also posted this in sleep but had no response. I've searched old threads but hoping someone has some fresh ideas and tips here really!

Haven't told DS yet and not sure how to handle the change...
He is looking forward to helping build his old cot for his baby sister to use and has mentioned in the past he doesn''t like being on his own when she's with us and she can sleep in there so hoping he'll still think the same today!

DS is sleeping pretty badly at night at the minute so we're hoping them being together will help- he's been a bit jealous of DD being in with us, saying he doesn't want to be all on his own. Though it's not going to help the fact he wakes up 5 or 6 times a night because his eczema is bad just now too.

DD still wakes a couple of times a night to feed (tho not sure if us going in and out to see to DS is waking her too) and is then awake from 5ish unless I bring her into bed with me. I can't do this when she's in the other room, don't want DS thinking coming to our bed is an option! And so have visions of me being up loads in the night and then from 5 as well.

DS has a nap in the afternoon and sleeps well then (totally exhausted I think!) whereas I really struggle to get DD to nap in her crib at all at the minute, lots of crying involved.

So, any advice on any aspect of toddler and baby bedroom sharing? Nap times, bed times, night wakings, the whole thing is scaring me!
Thanks for any words of wisdom from those of you who have already been here...

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Calamityboo · 06/04/2012 10:34

Hi, Sorry no real words of wisdom, from what you have said DS will like sharing and will make him feel involved rather than separated. I would say that I would get him involved in everything, choosing the bedding for both beds, helping to put DD's toys in the right places and make sure he has a little place that is just for his things as well. I have no advice about the sleeping bit as I am very smug have a DS who loves his sleep, sorry. This little bump should bring others along soon though. Good luck.

ipanicked · 06/04/2012 10:47

Honestly, honestly I bet it won't be as bad as you expect. We dreaded it, had an initial go when DD was 6mo but stopped cos I got bored of going to get her in the night for feeds (2 hourly Hmm) but did it for good a month ago when DD was 14mo and DS 2.7.

Actually it's been fine. It doesn't seem to matter if you put DS down first, or DD or both together. They both go to sleep no matter what racket the other one is making and they sleep much better. I read somewhere the sound of the other DCs breathing is soothing - not sure if it's true but something helps! They don't even wake each other at night even if they are screaming (both DS and DD still wake at night). The only downside is when one wakes up for the morning, the other usually wakes. But DS usually entertains DD for a little while for that extra 10mins of snoozing!

Oh btw we didn't make a big thing out of it with DS, we just matter of factly put DD in there one night and he's been totally unfazed. Good luck!

ojbsmum · 06/04/2012 21:19

Thanks for the reassurance!
Well, they're in , DS helped build the cot and organise the toys etc. Seems to like it beong a grown ups room and children's room now.
We took them both in for story together then I sat giving DD her bedtime feed in the dark while DS bounced around in his bed for what felt like an age (we've been starting bedtime like this for a while in readiness)
...And they're both asleep at the minute! Hope I've not jinxed the rest of the night- I'm off to bed in case it all goes wrong...

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Calamityboo · 07/04/2012 11:26

How did it go?

ojbsmum · 09/04/2012 04:00

Night 3 and going well so far...
They've woken each other up a few times but I've been up only 4 times a night at the most to feed DD or put cream on DS's eczema. (hope that doesn't jinx it!) Recently it's been more like 11 or 12.
Of course, it could just be coincidence, DS has just cut his molars and we'd not realised they were coming!
He does seem more settled now he knows she's not with us though.
Fingers crossed it continues!
Thanks again for the reassurance

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Calamityboo · 09/04/2012 08:20

It does sound promising though! Glad it seems to be working out.

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