aggressive 1 yr old please HELP!!!!!!!!!

[jaspersslave]

hey everyone i really need your help

i have a 16 month old little boy who is lovely and very cheeky. the only problem is his very bad aggression. he constantly hits, slaps, kicks, and bites me and his dad and my friend who lives with us to the point where we get nervous when he comes near. he is also very bad at toddler group. he pushes children to the floor sits on them and slaps them on the face. he also constantly tries to attact the small babys in their prams he even strangled a newborn once. ui try timing him out but afterwards he laughs and does it again. i dont want to stop taking him to toddler group as i suffered bad postnatel depression and i feel i need that time to see friends and have a chat.
he will be starting nursery soon as i need to start work but i really dont want him going behaving as he is doing

please if any one has any advice it would be really grateful

from a very bruised jaspersslave

Maybe have a look at this thread I started last week. I followed the wise words of Aloha (and Soren) to the letter and three days later have my lovely 15m ds back. Personally, I wouldn't go for the shutting in a room stuff but putting him straight down, no word of warning and just doing something else has really worked.

HTH

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Everyone has said it really - the key is ignoring- putting him straight down with a loud "NO" and walking off really will have an effect. The other side of things which you may well do already, but is worth saying - is lots of positive play between you. Make sure you are spending lots of time in the day actually playing with him so that he gets the idea that life is more fun when you're NOT ignoring him. Kids are hard wired to attract your attention and he WILL thrive on positive attention from you coupled with firm and consistent treatment about the aggression.

I know it's good for kids to be able to play on their own and amuse themselves but I really feel that specially during this time when you are trying to modify his behaviour, it would be best if you are down on the floor playing with him as much as you physically can each day.

lots of good luck to you, hope you manage to sort this!