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DD aged 7 is lying and stealing...

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Amandella · 06/02/2006 17:19

My once lovely kind child has recently turned into a nightmare! I found a book in her school bag which she admitted to having stolen from a stall at a fair and I've had to take all her pocket money off her and hide her savings as a punishment. She can't seem to stop spending money whenever she has it - books/pens/hair clips - and she has tons of stuff - she's actually thoroughly spoilt. My husband and I have tried all sorts of punishments - taking things away, stopping her from going to a party - you name it/we've tried it - and today she's come home having spent £5 on a book from her school book fair when I had told her that she wasn't allowed to buy anything and had deliberately hidden her money so she couldn't take it to school. Apparently she found the hiding place, "stole" the money from my hiding place and "couldn't resist" the book - I'm at my wits end. She says she's sorry and she doesn't know why she keeps spending but I feel she does not understand the value of anything. She's not a bad child and she's had a wonderful childhood (so far) - I gave up work to look after her and her sister and I just don't think she could need or want for anything. We all adore her but I feel we've somehow failed as parents. Sorry for the ramble but i'm so worried about her and just don't know what to do for the best.

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rickman · 06/02/2006 17:21

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mawbroon · 06/02/2006 17:25

Has she earned the money or has it been given to her? If she sees the effort involved in earning the money by having to work for it she might not be quite so willing to part with it.

muma3 · 06/02/2006 17:30

my dd1 8y gave her money to friends at school , when i questioned her she told me she did it to make them like her . i think she was under peer pressure whether this applies to your situation i dont know but hth

fairyjay · 06/02/2006 17:31

I know it's probably not the same thing, but my dd (12) can't wait to spend birthday/christmas money, whereas my ds (13) saves his.

It's suddenly hit home to dd that she has around £150 in her savings, and ds has over £600.

Maybe 7 is a little young to expect her to be responsible.

Troutpout · 06/02/2006 21:56

Where does the money come from? is it pocket money?
i would take her money from her so that she has to request it from you to spend any of it.
Or...open up a savings account and give her some kind of incentive to save a certain amount per few months

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