Impatient but when should I start trying to get DD into a routine

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My DD is 3 weeks 2 days old and doing very well. I just wondered how I go about going for longer gaps between night feeds ? I think I know the answer is just wait for her to do it but wanted any opinions. I know it won't happen yet but want to be prepared
Thanks x

I am criticising DH alot but he never ever does as I ask and when he does I have to wait 20 mins. Plus I know it's selfish but he is showing me no affection whatsoever and he is normally the complete opposite. I cry and he shakes his head and walks away !

this is normal.
i promise.
you do need to kindly tell your dh that it's normal for you to be "demanding" at the moment because your hormones are raging, your body has been torn sideways and both your body and mind need to get used to having this utterly dependent human being.

I felt sooo overwhelmed to start with, and as i said, if dh took too long getting me something, i would feel so angry, and so frustrated.

There's a chance he's worried about coming to give you affection in case you rebut him.
You do need to sit and talk to him about it. He probably hasn't even contemplated the hugeness of this change!

Thanks nickel u have really helped me. We talked last night and he felt I was constantly having a go so I now realise that I haven't been asking for his help in the nicest of ways but also he has realised that when baby needs things she needs them as she doesnt understand that things take time !!
She was a good girl all day yesterday, was up every 2 hours in the night but I suppose that can still be expected for a while yet??

DH said that to me, that he felt i was having a go at him.
It was really hard for me to calm down to explain how i felt.
I think, with me, it was a huge panic, that I knew she needed something , and I had to dress, or wee, or get her ready for a feed, and he always seemed to be off doing something else! If i put her down for a minute, she would scream and scream.
so i explained to him how i felt that i was constantly needed and that my only job was making sure dd was okay, which meant that his only job was looking after me.

it's lot easier now (except now the house is a mess! )

another part of it, i think, is calming yourself down. I learned that DD got more distressed if i stressed about it. :)

yup, she'll still be waking in the night for a while! (but it'll get easier to get her back to sleep)

Sorry, didn't do my link properly. I meant that I read Babycalming and it is fab.

As for the falling out with DH, lack of sleep has a lot to answer for! How are things with him now? Is there a particular thing that either of you are unhappy with? Would he be prepared to take DD out in the sling or pram for an hour for you so that you can get some sleep?

Thanks again ladies, haven't seen baby claiming so will have a look.
We had a lovely day out yesterday and dd seems to have gone back to her routine of sleeping 4 hours at night then 3 then getting up and ur right nickel she is starting to settle much easier mainly because I am now calm and I can tell with her cries whatshe needs (always thought that was a load if rubbish but u can actually tell the diff, magic !!)
DH and I are more chilled and more loved up too, think maybe we just needed to let each other know how we felt, we have never argued before but I gues now we have something to argue about ha ha.
Will see what today brings, happy Easter xx

Glad things are working out better for you all. We never argued until we had the DC either