Please is this terrible twos or something else?

[Annababy]

I have 2yr old dts, and both have had a few tantrums etc but dd in the last week has gone into serious meltdown mode.I'm starting to struggle with this now,I will give some examples.
Screams for a toy/dummy/porridge etc and when u get it screams she doesn't want it.
Clingy all the time,to the point it has made it impossible for me to leave the house to go out as she goes into a mega screaming,kicking fit.
Wakes up in the night demanding she comes into bed,literally waking up screaming until she gets her own way,I work full time so sometimes it's easier for me to bring her into bed as I'm tired a lot,dp isn't happy with this as he doesn't sleep well.
Refuses food when she has said she is hungry,throws it on the floor and then won't eat.
Mood swings at the drop of a hat,from delightful to screaming banshee.
This morning she has spent the last 45 minutes screaming on the floor that she wants a particular dummy but as soon as I give it to her she throws it away,she is inconsolable,despite me trying to comfort her.
I am finding this hard now,not sure if it terrible twos or do I go to gps?please help me

It is terrible two's BUT you may also want to consider whether or not she isn't feeling well. It is as confusing a time for them as for you and she may not always know how to communicate what she needs to you. Try to tighten up the routine a bit and don't divert away - fixed meal and snack times, fixed calm bath time, book and bed. And whatever you do dont give in to the screaming fits and demands, she is confused and has no idea what she wants (hence the throwing away once you give it to her). I have to admit to giving the odd spoon of calpol when my DS used to get like this.

Re the bringing to bed again it can't carry on, if you want her to get back into a routine you are the only one who can enforce it and you mustn't let a two year old terrorist ruin all the hard work you have done so far! Good luck and buy some ear plugs!