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I feel bad when not playing with DS

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needthistowork · 02/04/2012 13:03

DS 3.1 always wants to play with me (or his DH when he is home) "play cars mummy" I have a 10 week old and cant always play cars ie if im feeding DS2 or want to tidy/start dinner/mn etc.

I feel bad when i dont play with him, should i? DH doesnt.

How can i encourage him to play on his own, he just nags and nags "play cars mummy" over and over even if i explain im feeding baby i will play cars after he still keeps on even though im still feeding.

If he played happily on his own i wouldn't feel bad.

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IWillOnlyEatBeans · 02/04/2012 13:45

My DS (2.1) is really similar.

The only thing that works for me is to start DS off with a game (usually cars here too) - so I help him dig out he ones he wants, help him build a tunnel for them and spend 10-15 minutes really focussed on the blasted things....then I can leave him to it and get on with other things. I can extend this by joining in verbally (rather than physically) if I am in the same room as him (ooh, look at your green car, you've driven it through the tunnel, was it dark in the tunnel? Why don't you put the baby angel in the red car? etc...etc... while I quickly get on with the ironing)

If I just tell him to get on with it, or play by himself, I get a very firm 'No Mammy!'

3boysandagirl · 02/04/2012 13:53

Could it be he feels a little bit left out because of your new baby? I would set aside a bit of time in the day to spend joining in with him and then when you can't ask him to show you what he's doing, ask I'm questions etc
My dc are the opposite they'd much rather just get on with things without me (3 of them are much older.) So I feel redundant at times.

Don't feel guilty, you are only human and there will come and time when it's easier to do things with both of them together.

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needthistowork · 03/04/2012 23:02

Thanks for the replys.

I Do my best to make aure ds1 gets lots of attention and doesnt feel left out but he is jelous at times.

I dont fed ds2 in the same room ds1 plays cars as its not comfy but think i will try and bring some pillows down so i can fed baby and talk ds through playing his cars. Thanks

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