Five year olds tantrums and whining making me feel terrible

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I love her so much, but she starts every day with whines and moans, then ends most days with a monster tantrum. I find it so depressing. She has a lovely life and is actively and openly loved by two very present parents and a VERY patient older sister. We have tried the step, time out, removing toys, being calm, bring firm. Nothing works. Sometimes I can cope with it, other times like now I feel really bleak about it all and think 'is there something not quite right?' and 'have I caused this?' I will probably feel right as rain after some sleep, but wondered if anyone has any excellent tips or reassurance in the meantime.

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Why are sarahluv's messages being deleted? I have a 3 yr old DD who sounds very similar to OP's DD. Lovely happy little girl about 70% of the time, complete whingebag/diva tantrum throwing terror the rest of the time. She HATES being told what to do and we quite often (once a week) have stand-offs with her refusing to pick up mess/fetch something herself and me refusing to do it either as it's not my mess. She just shouts, "I hate fetching things, it's your job mummy!" (!!!!!). But then she will give me a big hug and say, "You're a lovely mummy....(silence)...can I have some juice?" Apparently I was just the same at her age and I am still fairly impatient and can throw strops at DH but most people think I am very calm and easy-going. So it will be fine one day!

Sarah's messages were reported and deleted because 'she' thought it would be terribly clever to come and post obscenities here.

Thanks for advice regarding food intolerances/testing etc. She does get 'hives' sometimes and we have never worked out what causes them. I did not know whether a GP would think I was being a bit over dramatic going to get some tests since some piriton usually sorts this problem out. But I will take her now and see if the two things are linked in some way. I defintely know that things such as ice pops and slushes make her go crazy!

It is HUGELY reassuring to know that her behaviour is normal for lots of four and five year olds and we are not alone in our battling!

Thanks for reporting the awful comments - can't believe people waste their time writing stuff like that!

It does sound like she has food sensitivities and intolerances - especially if she comes out in hives - remember piriton can have bad side effects as well: your Gp or allergy specialist will best advise...

Good luck with the GP and allergy clinic.