Ds 4 won't eat

[neepsntatties]

We struggle to get him to eat, even if we make him exactly what he wants. Yesterday at lunch time he asked for cheesy scrambled eggs with tomato sauce and toast. I got him to help make it which he enjoyed. He wouldn't eat it. He starts to but then he tells me he can't get the food to go into his body and he needs to spit it out. If he doesn't spit then he starts to wretch.

I have no idea what I should be doing. He did eat his tea yesterday so had at least one meal but it's all very hit or miss and he isn't eating enough.

No real advice sorry but I didn't want this to go unanswered. I'm sure someone will have some advice, so bumping up for you.

neeps we've had problems recently with DD refusing food at home but being fine eating elsewhere, even when we've cooked her exactly what she wanted too.

We changed what we do at home. We no longer cook special meals, she just gets the faimily meal. We serve it up and she sits at the table. We don't ask her to eat it or comment on what she's eating and half an hour later we clear everything away. She does know that if she doesn't eat all of it then she doesn't get anything else. Sometimes she will plead for some milk and a banana at bedtime but we stay firm.

It is hard and can be heartbreaking when she's begging for food but honestly she has changed her behaviour dramatically. Nine times out of ten she just eats all her tea and then has pudding. We've always had a rule that if you don't like something on the plate you don't have to eat it but it stays on the plate so if its something new to try we don't make her eat that, like a spoonful of a new vegetable for instance.

As for the choking, have you had his ears and throat checked just to eliminate soreness or tenderness as the cause?

Oh and this book is supposed to be very good although I haven't read it.

The book recommended is fantastic

Also, "How to Get Your Kid to Eat... But Not Too Much." Well worth a read.

Sorry, linked to the old version there. Try this version instead. Its a tad cheaper .

Sorry for the late response, it has been one of those weeks! Book looks perfect, I will try and get it through the library. My own relationship with food is iffy soI think it will be a great help

Yes agree. If you own relationship with food is difficult it can be good to get another perspective and the book has excellent reviews.