Does anyone's 4 year old still have a dummy?

[sazzler197]

Just wondered if anyone elses lo's still have a dummy at 4 years old! i am really struggling with my little girl i have managed to limit it to bed times only now and she gives me it after half an hour in a morning, then it's gone for the rest of the day! She will start asking for it early sometimes but i just tell her the dummy fairy has not been yet! Any tips on how just to get rid of it, she is quite a demanding little girl sometimes and struggle a bit as her little brother has a dummy too so it is still around her a little! Any advice will be muchly appreciated!

Thanks

Everyone always thinks that their child is more stubborn / more attached to their dummy / a tougher nut to crack than any other child ever has been before OP

But believe me, go cold turkey and she will be over it in 2-3 days. Tops.

I put a small hole in the dummy so it didn't 'work' properly. There was about a week of withdrawal and he was fine after that

so as your child sucks her thumb that ok nagoo? but a dummy is not when it is essentially the same thing?

some children will grow out of this habit, others will need a bit of coaxing/bribing with the dummy fairy, i think the op has done the right thing in limiting its use to bedtime, the next step is to get rid and i am pretty sure that will happen fairly soon given what the op has posted and you may have a few days of whinging etc, but it will be fine. at least at her age she is old enough to understand and you can talk to her about it, you could try a start chart for if she will got to bed without it etc, i think the dummy fairy is a great idea tho and will be using it with my dd when she is older if we need to :)

My dd1 is just 5, and just before Christmas had dummies and nappies. We told her that Santa could give her a special present if she didn't have a dummy. On the first night I told her that she could have it for sleeping but not while she was reading in bed, then just kept putting her off till she fell asleep. It took ages, but then I had broken the 'can't sleep without a dummy' block. I then chucked out all the dummies (in another houses bin) and gave her loads if cuddles and fuss. It took five nights, and nights three and four were awful :-( but tgere were no dummies in the house so I couldn't give in. Then she just stopped asking for it.

Then one night she just decided not to wear a nappy any more, and is now drier at night than daytime. Weird.

So, yeah, if you had asked me on December 15th, I would have never imagined that 2 months later she would be dummy and nappy free, but she was. So don't despair!

My dp works with a guy who's kids are now in their 20's but when his dd was young they had a nightmare taking her dummy off her. She really wanted barbie roller skates for christmas so her dad told her that Father Christmas needed her dummies to make into skates and she handed them over and never asked for them back.

Non of you have answered this though, it's not the weeping and the wailing and complaining I have an issue with.

I take the dummy away and she sticks her thumb in instead (she used to be a finger sucker and we got her onto a dummy instead) I would rather she'd have a dummy than her thumb.

randomness i suspect my dd may be the same as at time she will suck her thumb, she prefers her dummy but when its not there the thumb will go in, but it isnt enough and then she gets cross, but i can see her thumb being the replacement when we try to get rid!

ds4 is a thumb sucker, he is just 4 and gradually has done it less and less, its not for bedtime, when poorly or in the car etc, i am hoping he will grow out of it but i am pleased dd has a dummy so we can at least try to take it away, unlike the thumb!