My Ds skipped the terrible 2's and instead had the terrible 4's, 5's and 6's. We finally thought he had come through the other side and his behaviour had improved greatly. (during this time he didn't just throw himself on the floor and scream. he would bite, kick, spit and lash out) We dealt this with time out taking away treats and on very rare occasions where he had done something dangerous a smacked bottom.
Anyway this seemed to have stopped, he seemed to be able to control himself and and while he occasionally flounced off he was no longer violent. Anyway I was in and out of hospital through december and gave birth to DD in January and in general he has been fantastic, but his old behaviour is starting to creep back in.
He tries to hurt me both emotionally. 'I don't want to live with you, I'm going to live with Auntie.' 'I don;t care about you' etc and physically smacking me, kicking me, scratching me and for the first time ever spitting (I can't abide spitting). I am still hormonal and am finding this difficult to deal with. There is also the fact he is no longer a little boy, he it quite big and I can't 'put' him somewhere. I'm also frightened if I don't nip this in the bud now, what the f**k am I going to do when he's a teen?????
I understand after 8 years with all the attention it's a difficult transition and I am trying to give him time, especially after DD is in bed and doing things with just him when time allows. And in saying this he is very loving to his sister and helpful in doing jobs in helping me looking after her.
But this flare up is doing my head in and it's taking a lot for me not to stoop to his level and tell him to piss of and go and live with Auntie!
Help Please!