My 9 YO DS is having some difficulties with reading, writing and maths. We think it's due to an attention problem, he's going to be assessed by CAMHs soon. A bit of back ground: DS's father and I split when he was 3, dad went away to live and I sank into a depression. Dad came back 13 months later to our area and after my being diagnosed with a mental health condition DS went to live with dad during the week and me during weekends. Before this DS was a fun, outgoing, bright young man and very sociable. Now he has one friend in school only, has a soiling issue and is falling behind. His dad and step-mum broke up a few weeks ago and since last week DS has been living with me full-time as dad gets a new flat sorted out. I am now trying to deal with getting DS into a routine of going to the loo, reading, homework, socialising and trying to fit in fun ways of doing maths. I had a new baby 3 months ago so I also need to make sure DS and DD get time together to forge the new bond, try and get a family meal organised around feedings and DS's activities/homework and some one-to-one time with DS so he doesn't feel left out. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to structure a decent routine, and other than tasks set by the school what sort of things I can do to help my son catch up in school, what have other parents done with soiling issues? After having a few years without DS during the week I'm out of sync and now with a new baby around that demands so much attention I feel I'm failing my son by not adjusting quickly enough. HELP!