Discipline for 2yr 10 mth old help needed!!!!!

[mommabee]

Please tell me this will end!!!??? My DS 2.10 is driving me nuts, I really don't know what to do. Why can't he just do as he is asked and do it the first time I ask not the 10th time!!
I try and spend as much time as I can playing with my DS, I also have a DD 6 months plus all the housework etc to do so I do try my best to give him attention. But I can't entertain him 24/7.
I get so annoyed and frustrated when i ask him to tidy his toys, pick up the bowl hes just launched across the floor etc and I have to ask him 4/5 times!!!!
When he is being naughty, kicking the dog was todays naughtiness, yesterday he scratched his sister's face with his fork! I don't know what to do to discipline him and get it through to him how he really can't do these things!! We have a 'naughty step' and other than that if it's very naughty I'm at the end of my thether- he gets put in his room.
I just feel I'm constantly saying no! and everything is a battle with him. I wonder where my beautiful baby has gone??
I'm starting to shout more and more and I hate myself for doing this,
any ideas of how I can get him to behave will be gratefuly appreciated :)

It will get better!! My DS2 was utterly hideous until he turned 3. It got to the stage when couldn't go round peoples houses/toddler groups/soft play/pretty much anywhere as he'd flop to the floor and scream for 30 + mins and this was also a technique he perfected going anywhere new. Soul destroying and I really struggled with him. Now he is 3.5 he's much better tho still has the occasional floor throwing bout if hungry/tired/being a pita. He's very strong willed but if I am consistent, stubborn in return then he's manageable. He needs very clear boundaries tho likes to test them frequently!!! Hang in there.....I know it's hard! he also has delayed speech and language which I'm sure doesn't help.

thanks jinxediam! its good to know I haven't created a monster!! and its probably quite normal behaviour, some days its is hard though :)

Are you getting down to his level, making eye contact and asking in a calm but firm way? If it just becomes a constant background noise of Do This, Do That I think it is easier to ignore.

Have you tried I'll race you to tidy up the toys, you put away the cars and I'll put away these puzzle pieces etc.

How to Talk... has lots of ideas for how to deal with this kind of stuff without ending up totally livid eg describing the problem (I don't like tripping over toys) rather than moaning. And stating expectations, eg We are going to play with this and then tidy it up before we go out.

He's just being a normal 2 year old. Apparently it take's them some time to process instructions (I can't remeber how long it is but they had a poster on the wall at preschool with the info on).

Even my 4year old often doesn't seem to hear me the first 3 times I ask her to do something, but she has gotten better with age.

Definitely agree with mig, two year olds aren't great at processing instructions. Pick your battles.