Vile behaviour from a 5 yo - where to begin with discipline?

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DD is 5 1/2, and quite frankly, her behaviour for the past few days has been vile - rude, defiant, attention seeking, agressive. She has had a few outbursts in the past, but we have concentrated on the poistives and got through it. This time it is different. She is overtired and has been low level unwell (cold, cough)for a few weeks but nothing needing treatment other than inhalers. I know she needs the holidays but they are a couple of weeks away.

Do you have a preferred way of consequencing a child of this age, that wouldnt impact on her sister(ie - I cant cancel outings etc)?

all help and tips gratefully received

Early nights ( like super early), but make them nice- hot choc/spec. Bubble bath (whatever she likes) then tucked up in bed with story tape. Try to get her to sleep in a bit longer.

Lots of fruit and veg (and as many hidden vitamins as you can manage).

As a response to specific bad behaviour, get down to her level, look her in they eye and tell you won't tolerate it. If this does not work, withdraw privileges- certain toys etc...

Don't curtail trips out, but if she is naughty she must stand by your side and hold your hand, not run ahead with her sister, can't buy anything in gift shop etc...

sorry, forgot to say that she has sleeping issues so sleep is laways going to be an issue.

birds, I have tried all that, but having been ill myself for 6 weeks and finding it hard to recover as I dont get any sleep (thanks to her!), it's quite tricky sometimes! I am not the most patient of people after a full day at work feeling crap. that is my issue to deal with though, not hers, I know.

she can't /won't sleep in, and nights are as early as we can get them, but we dont get home till quite late, then it's homework, tea, bath, playing/reading/tv while I put DD2 to bed, then bed herself.

I like the idea of her staying by my side, no treats etc, and will be looking to remove certain toys if she does not respond after warnings.

I know she is not 100% and you do have to reinforce the positives but she does have to realise that negative behaviour has consequences. I agree this has to be of the quiet and calm variety though as sarcalogos said.

I would consider putting her to bed first!

thank you - las tnight wasn't good, thjere was much shouting but I took her torch from her and she realised I woudlnt put up with it, I think. Today Ia hve made her a reward chart to try and emphasise the positive. If she manages 4 out 6 stickers, she will get to make cakes at the weekend. We are concentrating on just a couple of things at first.

My latest antibiotics seem to be working so I'm feelinga bit better which hopefully means I'll be a bit more calm!