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Is it normal for 2yos to push other children?

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MissPenteuth · 20/03/2012 14:57

This is a follow-on from a thread I posted earlier today. I just want to know what the concensus is, is pushing a normal phase that a lot of toddlers go through? I know it's behaviour that needs to be addressed, but it it abnormal?

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smearedinfood · 20/03/2012 15:00

Lil smeared is a pusher and when he does it he says "dhuuusssh", he's been told off for it by nursery and me.

AuntieBacterial · 20/03/2012 15:35

I have a 2yo DS who is a pusher. It's awful but I think it's quite common. It doesn't seem to matter how we deal with him when he does it, he takes absolutely no notice. I am hoping he will grow out of it soon!

HettyKett · 20/03/2012 15:37

No, not abnormal at all. Most toddlers seem to go through a phase of pushing, hitting or biting. Or a combo. Oh, and throwing things was a favourite here too.

You're right, it does need addressing but it really isn't something to worry about.

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matana · 20/03/2012 20:47

My 2.5 yo niece just went through a phase of pushing my 16 mo DS. She seems to have stopped now and my guess is it must be pretty normal.

naturalbaby · 20/03/2012 20:55

ds1 never did it (he was a very laid back baby/toddler), ds2 does it to smaller kids when they get too close.

He shoves his big and little brothers constantly at home.

Innat · 20/03/2012 20:57

Agree with hettykett, all are normal but make you feel like a shite mother! If you're really lucky you a get a little bugger that does all of them!

AThingInYourLife · 20/03/2012 21:03

Normal, and not particularly awful.

Obviously you need to teach them not to do it, but there's no reason to feel like a bad mother because a toddler is doing toddler things.

Hitting and biting are obviously more worrying because they can do more harm, but still no reason to feel like anyone is to blame for deliberate boldness.

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MissPenteuth · 21/03/2012 09:31

Thanks for the replies everyone. You've confirmed what I thought :)

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steben · 21/03/2012 11:01

I have a pusher - mainly when people are in her way and i find it MORTIFING! I am quick to leap up and make her say sorry (she usually just cries) but if any mums out there have any better tip i would loive to hear them!

mrspepperpotty · 21/03/2012 11:49

Normal - however, if your own DCs do not do it, it is easy to not realise this and blame the parents of an offending toddler. I fell into this trap with DC1

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