Bedwetting 8 year old...

[MrsArchieTheInventor]

I?ve possibly posted this on the wrong thread, and apologies if I have but?

DS 8 ½ is still wetting the bed at night. He?s become very conscious of the issue as he?s going on Cub Camp very soon and he?s worried that he?s going to be the only one in pyjama pants (though the Cub leader has assured me that he has cubs way older than DS who wear pyjama pants and the Camp leaders accommodate their bedtime routines accordingly)

DS has been to the enuresis clinic and has tried drinking more throughout the day, though admittedly he doesn?t drink a lot, but short of waterboarding him we can?t force him to drink more. We?ve had a prolonged period of nil by mouth from about an hour before bedtime coupled with Desmotabs but to no avail ? he still has wet nights even with medication. We also take DS to the toilet before we go to bed too, around 11-12 pm, and have done for a long time, and his pyjama pants are dry when we take him to the toilet which tells me that it?s an early morning thing.

DS is reluctant to try a bed alarm (to the point of heartachingly distressed crying when I suggested it) and I won?t try anything like that without his consent anyway.

Any ideas as to how we can improve DS?s bedwetting? For what it?s worth, he does have intermittent spells of between 1-4 nights of dry nights, for which we praise and reward him with comics, and we?re keeping a diary of dry nights and habits, but DS is still conscious that he wets the bed when his classmates don?t.

Help?

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I have no idea
I have a 7 1/2 yeaer old who does

We did try the alarm, he would sleep through it. so much so the battery died within a week. We lift him when we go to bed and sometimes he manages and sometimes he doesn't.

We were told not to put him in pj pants (though would for a camp or holiday) so his body would notice being wet. But it doesn't and I have to wash the waterproof (terry) sheets every day and sometimes the duvet too.

Not much help I know but am here in support

Hang on in there.

DS became dry at night a couple of months before his 9th birthday. I was going to talk to the GP about it when he was 9 as the previous time he had said that he wouldn't consider measures other than lots to drink in day and nothing in the evening until DS was 9.

Within a few weeks of him being dry we are at the stage where we don't need to monitor his evening intake of liquid.

He was having successive nights of dryness from when he was 7 but never more than 4 in a row.

Hang in there, younger I know, but my 5yo is only very recently night dry - it felt like it'd never happen and then it suddenly did. we dropped night pants about 4months before he was finally dry, so had 3m of nightly bed change/washes. Really hope it happens soon for you all - frustrating, heartbreaking and exhausting.

I had enough of DD's bedwetting, she was miserable, I was ready to bang my head against a brick wall. I bought an NLP book on bedwetting. Read up on bedwetting madly and increased water intake and cut out certain fruits (apples and oranges and juice were banned after lunchtime). We were done in 3 days :-). Occasional accidents still when my idiot parents decide to spoil her with lots of acidic fruit late at night, but beyond that she doesn't wet the bed. The NLP book is really helpful, but I believed in that kind of stuff because I have a friend who does it for a job. When she has an accident (she's 5), it is because she says she forgot to put the locks on, or the apples, then she drinks plenty of water the next day, and she's back to being sorted.

Oh and I came to the conclusion that lifitng doesn't really help, after my mother insisted I tried it, and then when I read up about it, I found that apparently it doesn't help their bladder develop the necessary capacity. I often have to wake up in the night as an adult - my mother was a religious lifter - so i reckon there is some truth in it! Genetics wise, I am told both families are late bedwetters (7-8 plus).

The biggest thing that helped us was banning fruit juice from her diet, and reprogramming her mind, which had quite frankly given up in complete despair and sadness. The latter I found much sadder / harder to deal with than getting up at 5am for wet sheets. So for that reason I liked the NLP because it gave her back control. Technically she was too young for it at 5, (its meant to be 7 plus I think) but as she was very verbal, I did an adapted version of the book with her.

www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Bedwetting-Days-step---step/dp/1904312705/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1332187871&sr=8-2

i second not using night lifting - it just encourages 'sleepy' wees unless you completely wake them!

but it does save on washing when you have two younger children, one also who isn't completely dry and one in nappies.
We've had him in pants for almost a year now but didn't start lifting until after 3 months in because I just couldn't cope with the washing anymore

As an ex scout leader can assure you it affects scouts as well as cubs but as not discussed hence your DS thinking he is the only one. Some of it is certainly genetic. my brother only stopped when he started rising at 5.30 to do a paper round aged 13.

Your DS is old enough to understand that drinking more in the day will help. We have had success with boys recording all fluid drunk each day and plotting on a graph to increase intake can be linked to reward if necessary.

hi there. i did until i was 8. nothing helped (being sent away to a clinic for six weeks (the most traumatic experience of my childhood), the bed alarm etc etc., until finally i was just sent to spend 15min every afternoon with a child psychologist talking about how my day went with me. I just got some individual attention and she introduced these nice sticker charts, it was a calendar and for every night that I was dry I was allowed to put a mickey mouse or donald duck sticker on the day. As soon as she introduced those Walt Disney stickers, I was dry :-). I urge you to try it. But the part about individual attention and some winding down time at the end of the day helps. Usually there is some psychological reason for it and some one on one attention and care can help. wish you good luck. i am sure it will settle some time in the next year or two so don't worry.

Ds is ten and wears pull ups to cub camp.

It's v normal (ex cub leader)

My nine year old dd wets the bed she is currently taking two different meds. I was told by a specialist not to put her in pull ups or to wake her up as she needs to learn to do this herself. I end up washing whole bedsets at least five times a week which is not always easy to get them dry. DD is not allowed to have lots of dark drinks or carbonated drinks. DD is encouraged to drink plenty and due to the timing of her meds cannot drink the hour before going to bed. The alarm didn't work and sometimes she is still wet twice a night although this is rare. DD also is encouraged to strip the bed in the morning and remake it(see has bunk beds which enables her to get into a clean bed without fuss) this is not a punishment. I am a brownie leader and have supported my daughter to use pull ups for the night and have supported some of my brownies with these also so as not to make it obvious to the others.

Agree with those who say hang on in there.

My DS will be 9 soon and only recently (mostly) dry at night. He still wets occasionally. We have never taken him to the doctor about it, tried any medication etc, we just wanted to give the impression to him that it's no big deal. Me and DH were also bed-wetters apparently.

As far as I know DS has never woken up because he needs the toilet, BUT, recently I notice that he has been changing his pyjama bottoms in the night, because he says they are a bit damp, so I'm hoping that means he is starting to wake. Hurrah!

I swapped mine last night. Put ds2 (7) in sleep pants and dd (5) went without, she was wet once so will try for the rest of the week.

Anyway ds is finding the largest size sleep pants really uncomfortable, what do other people use for larger (older, hes skinny) children?

i get the feeling that ds3 (2) will be dry before ds2 is

How confident is he with getting up in the dark or using strange toilets?

My 8 year old dd wets the bed once or twice a week because she is too frightened to get out of bed so goes back to sleep desperate to wee. She also wets during the day if she can't get to a familiar, very clean toilet. It's a nightmare.

Very reassuring to see there are so many others out there in the same boat.

My nearly 8 yr old is still wetting and recently we removed the nappy in the hope that hed wake up as he'd feel wet. He rarely does and if he does, he just moves to another bed. He has also now got sore thighs from the acidic wee on his skin. I feel like crying for him as he just can't wake up. I am interested to hear about the fruit juice and extra fluids during the day. Would someone mind explaining how that works and what i should do please?

I was going to get the alarm or take him to a Dr in next few months. He has never been dry for more than a couple of nights a week. We don't make a fuss and have tried bribery. He's only just got bothered by it in the last few months. Thanks a lot