She has her hand permanently down her pants. She's learned not to do it at all when out, she doesn't do it at playschool and she doesn't do it at the table if we refuse food but she does do it a lot of the rest of the time and permanently in bed.
What's worse is she's now humping the furniture too. Footstools, chair seats....
I've spoken to Playschool several times but she's no longer doing it there. They were always very laid back and said she'd grow out of it.
I think I was slow to stop her when she was young because I came from a very religious background which was a bit repressive sexually so in trying to be relaxed about her 'enjoyment' of what she's doing, I ended up allowing her develop what seems a bit of an engrained habit!
Mil has started muttering about professional help but I can't help having an irrational fear that some demented misguided professional will start suspecting dubious causes.
If anyone can give me some ideas about how I can retrain her to do it less I'd be very grateful, I don't like the shame model but it is embarrassing in front of family. She's also extremely strong minded and quite fierce, so she's no pushover.
Any way I'd appreciate ideas but preferably not criticism, I do that to myself enough not to need to be criticised here. Thanks!