naughtly toddler and how not to loose my rag with her

[bunnysmummy]

Hi,
My DD is driving my nuts, any advice would be really appreciated. She is 25 months.
I recently potty trained her which has gone well (so it's not all bad news I guess) but now when i put her down for her nap it's a struggle to get her in a nappy, and this afternoon I totally lost control of the situation, got all cross with her etc and now I'm upset with myself for getting angry.

This afternoon we had a struggle to put the nappy on and then with her trousers, I try to entertain her and give her something to look at, I try to distract her by talking about her toys and i try to be stern and explain the nappy is going on but her response is to struggle and laugh at me.

After this, she was worked up so didn't want to read her books. She threw them around the room. I got her to sit down and look at a book, she ripped it, all the time I was trying to remain calm and even ignoring her bad behavior but she pulled my hair, pinched my face, kicked me and i was getting so bloody annoyed with her.

What am I doing? I know I've probably escalated it. I'm pretty sure she's not asleep now, not after getting so wound up but I'm leaving her in bed for now.

Thanks

Leave her in pants

If you are worried about wees then put towel under her

Ps she is not naughty but confused

switch to pull-ups and call them sleep pants?

Hi there,

No expert but I do have a currently potty-training 25 month old DD :)

My first thought is that maybe your DD is growing out of needing a nap in the day. DD hasn't day-napped for a while now, and would get quite cross if I tried :) if she's tired we get as far as a little quiet time but bed is out of the question now. Some of her little friends have also given up, while others still enjoy a nap - I know there's no set age for this.

Secondly, I put a nappy on DD to make a car journey a week or so ago - big error on my part, it totally confused her and set back the training a fair bit. Perhaps it's the nappy she's objecting to if she's trained (or considers herself trained!)

I sympathise -DD is a delight but by golly don't we know she's just turned 2 sometimes! It's particularly upsetting when you've had such a nice morning/trip to the park or whatever, and then you get this crazy episode of bad behaviour which comes out of nowhere and throws you. I'm sure we aren't alone.

I just wanted to sympathise with you really and offer my class notes on 25 month old daughters :)

goodness it seems so obvious, she just doesn't want to wear a nappy.

She is refusing her naps some days (since potty training now i think about it) but when she does sleep she does so for hours, I woke her up at 5:30 the other day and then she still does a 12 hour night.

I think I may just go for leaving her in pants for naps then, do they get the hang of not weeing whilst asleep?

Thanks for your responses and sympathy, I rather needed it

My dd went into pants at 24 months and has refused to wear a nappy since. Don't confuse her just put up with the washing!! She was completely dry day and night after about 3 weeks save for the odd accident ( which still happens v occasionally at night now she is 3.5).

Hi bunnysmummy,

It's tricky, I don't really know the answer as DD doesn't nap and is happy to wear a nappy at night. I have read posts on here saying that night-dryness only occurs when children are hormonally ready (or something like that) and I don't know if that applies to all sleeping?

I think I'd bite the bullet (and maybe buy a couple more mattress protectors) and put DD down to nap in pants? See how she gets on perhaps? What about pull-ups as moonbells suggests, or training pants? Training pants didn't confuse DD in the same way that nappies did when we used them early on.

None of this is tried and tested by me I'm afraid, they are just ideas but perhaps someone will come along who has been through this? Perhaps post on the Potty training bit of the boards with a more specific thread title? Bound to be knowledgeable folks there.

X-post with sevenbubbles who has clearly been through this :)

So this afternoon I picked up some pull ups pants which I explained were special knickers for bed. We had a little chat that they were the same as her other knicknacks and she was pleased as punch........we even pulled them up and down a few times just to confirm the similarity.

I shall see how we get on tomorrow for nap time and while I'm sat here I should order in some more mattress protectors as I shall need them at some point.

Thanks again, I feel a lot better about it