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Today my 4 yo ds said "I like being naughty, it makes me happy"

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Gemtubbs · 12/03/2012 14:13

Been quite upset. My ds is always full of beans and on the go. We went to visit family yesterday and he throws toys, bosses people around and is quite demanding. He's started to wet himself even though he's been dry for ages. I tried to make a fresh start this morning and took him to the park, but he just whinged and moaned the whole time. I'm ashamed to admit that I don't really enjoy spending time with him atm. He loves school and he couldn't wait to go, but I know that he'll cry when I go and pick him up because he doesn't want to go home. When I'm trying to make a fresh start, I have an idea of him in my head. That he'll be happy to go to the park and that we'll have alot of fun together. But the reality is that we don't really get along and he says that being naughty makes him happy. Sorry, I'm just having a rant really. I know that it's my fault for not keeping up with him, I don't seem to have any energy or patience. Has anybody else ever felt this way? Has anybody else had a difficult relationship with their children?

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honeybun11 · 12/03/2012 16:40

Has your ds started school recently? Maybe the transition has made him unsettled? It definitely isn't your fault, and you're not doing anything wrong. In any case, it sounds like you are exhausted and could really do with a break. Is there anyone who could look after him for a while every so often while you have some time to yourself or with other kids?
I was at home all the time when my two older ones were small (my kids are now 13, 11 and 7) and I did find my dd (then aged 2) very hard work at times. Looking back on it I think I was a bit depresseed and needed more sleep and more help with the kids.
You do deserve to have help and support from friends and family and you do deserve a break.
I wouldn't worry too much about the 'it makes me happy' comment - sounds like he was trying to provoke you (and probably succeeding!) I'd ignore it.
Good luck!

Gemtubbs · 13/03/2012 13:08

Thanks for your nice reply honeybun11. : ) Yesterday was a bad day, but today it has been fine. I think that you're right about everything. I'll try not to take too much notice when he says these things next time. : ) xx

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honeybun11 · 13/03/2012 13:48

My pleasure. It's a hard job being a mum sometimes :)

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