Night visiony terror type things

[marymary1000]

My DS has always had night terrors. Not every night but we seem to have a run of them every few months. We take him to the loo and you can see him coming out of them, relax and then he takes himself off to bed and can;t remember a thing in the morning.

The last few nights however, these have taken a different slant.

He goes to bed but can't get to sleep. He gets up starts panicking running upstairs downstairs, crying, saying that the room is flashing and closing in on him.

The only way we can calm him down is for him to sit with his dad (who also got them when he was a kid) dh just literally hangs on to him, gives him water, maybe takes him outside and talks him down, just his dad not me (boo hoo)

Now he had a big meltdown with his dad yesterday and dh was very disappointed with his behaviour, I'm wondering whethers its a psychological thing.

Any thoughts anyone??

I would take him to the GP just to see if there is anything more to it. Those symptoms sound strange to me.

are you sure he hasnt dozed off and is actaully in a terror at this new time?

can you try calpol/paracetamol 4 times a day for a few days as i often find it is related to a slight chage in sleep cycles/body temp due to be a tiny bit unwell.

How old is he?

Also: why was your DH 'disappointed in him'?!

Was there anything recently that scares him, anything (even small) you can think of that might have upset him? It may well be a 'psychological thing' which is very ordinary for children & can easily pass as long as you as parents have a think about what you think might be going on and perhaps share it with him.

We do need a bit more info though to be able to say what we think...

maria2007 he's 9 and dh was rightly disappointed with him because his behaviour was bang out of order, trust me we as a family do not go around disappointed in our son but when he does something he knows is wrong we will tell him so, I'm not really sure what the ? & ! in your post are aimed at?

DS has night terrors from time to time, it takes about 10-15 minutes for him to calm down. It is not possible to "rush" someone out of a night terror, you simply just have to "be with them", keep them safe, offer cuddles, and soft words until they pass. When DS has one, we always turn the bedroom lights on, and say the same phrase to him: "You're safe, you're safe". We've found that trying to talk to him any more than that simply makes him worse and he gets frightened. He flaps about crying and talking utter gibberish (I can see where the whole "speaking in tongues" and being possessed by the devil comes from!). Eventually he calms down, allows us to cuddle him, and then tuck him back into bed. He has no recollection of it in the morning.

The troubles falling asleep, the night terrors and the meltdowns would definitely have me visiting my GP and asking for a referral to the mental health service. Not to frighten you or anything, because it's probably a very benign reason - you do say your DH had night terrors, and they are know to be hereditary. I don't see any harm in asking the experts though.

Does your DS have any other sensory issues? Social communication issues? How is school?