Really need help with very angry child

[mumsnit]

Can anyone please recommend some support or resources to help with anger in children. DS is 7 and shouts, hits and completely flies off the handle at the simplest thing. We are worn down by him, have tried everything we can think of and pretty much at the end of our tether.

He is only a problem at home so I can only think we are doing something wrong or he doesn't feel supported. He still behaves like a toddler at times. I don't see any of his friends behaving this way any more. He is also very anxious and feels he doesn't do anything very well. I'm really concerned it is the start of a mental health issue.

Two books worth a look.

There's a volcano in my tummy. www.amazon.co.uk/Volcano-My-Tummy-Children-Caregivers/dp/0865713499/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1331416463&sr=8-1
Everything I do you blame on me. www.amazon.co.uk/Everything-Do-You-Blame-Self-Esteem/dp/1882732103/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1331416542&sr=1-1

You should also speak to your GP. If your child needs help then sooner is better than later. Wishing you strength. xxx

Thank you - I really appreciate your reply and will have a look at those books x

I know it's a long shot, but if you're near Leeds and want to borrow them rather than buying them then PM me. x

Have you thought about some sort of processing disorder - or dyslexia.

I'm not trying to worry you but I know a lovely lovely boy who has always had outbursts - only at home really.

He's 11 now but was diagnosed with dyslexia at 9 and auditory processing disorder, or rather sensitivity, as its quite mild. He is a lovely boy who will have a lovely life, bright as button but the poor mite was so stressed out dealing with dyslexia and the school were rubbish. The parents paid for a private assessment.

Thank you NoWittyName - I've managed to order the volcano one through local library. I'm on wrong side of the country to borrow the other one unfortunately but is a really kind thought

daytoday - that is interesting as school mentioned APD as he has a lot of traits. Dyslexia has been tested for and ruled out but there is definitely 'something' there. I will look into it further as it would make sense with some of the issues he has.

I found the following fascinating
The Explosive Child, by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.

Hi, I also have this problem with my 7 year old son. He is really good and performing well at school but when he comes home he shouts a lots and gets very angry. He hits his younger brother all the time for the slightest reason (though he can be very annoying to him!). He cries a lot too like a toddler when things don't go his way. However, he wouldn't dream of doing any of these things at school. He does have good moments especially if me or his dad are one to one with him but that happens rarely due to my husband working late.

I am also having alot of problems with my 4yr old son it's at school that upsets me the most when he's hurting other children and then comes home and starts on my middle daughter you can't reason with him he just hits you all the time again like you yorkpud mu daughter knows what buttons to push with hi we as a family are at are whits end and I am going to speak to his gp
Is there anyone who can help me
Thanku