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Baby more excited to see my husband than me!

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seoladair · 09/03/2012 21:06

I came on this thread looking for advice about this, and saw similar thread, about a baby who doesn't seem to miss its parents. I didn't want to crash it so am starting my own, and it's a slightly different situation anyway.

Baby is 10 months old. I have started working again for 1 full day and 2 half days p/w. I'm happy that we have a super childminder, and baba loves her.
When I come home, baby smiles and waves. But in the past couple of weeks she's been squealing with joy and kicking and waving manically when my husband comes home.

i'm happy she loves her daddy, especially as he took a few weeks to bond with her. Fatherhood hit him like a ton of bricks and he didn't enjoy the early weeks. I had a rush of love for her as soon as she was born. I know my husband feels guilty about how he was when she was a newborn, and has worked hard to make up for it. He does lots of silly mad dances with her, which she loves, throws her around etc, and is now great fun.

I'm starting to get paranoid that maybe she thinks I'm just too boring and that I should be making more effort. I adore her, and play with her toys, help her to walk, read to her, babble with her etc. Maybe it's just because she spends so much more time with me that she doesn't get so excited when I come home?

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Tee2072 · 09/03/2012 21:08

That's exactly why. She knows you will be there no matter what. Your husband she sees less frequently so she's 'entertaining' him, as much as a small baby can do that.

seoladair · 09/03/2012 21:15

I feel better already - thank you Tee!

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Harecare · 09/03/2012 21:15

Enjoy it, it's normal. Compliment your DH on how much DD clearly loves him, hopefully that'll keep him being active and working hard with her. My DDs think their Dad is the bees knees and I'm only good at washing up! You're both her parents and she will love you equally, it's not a competition!

seoladair · 09/03/2012 21:21

I'm glad you think it's normal! I'm very proud of my husband for being such a lovely dad. I was just worried that I was maybe not doing enough to entertain her, but you've both reassured me!

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gallicgirl · 09/03/2012 21:28

My 13 mth old is exactly the same because daddy can physically throw her around and swing her in the air and is lots of fun. However, it's mummy she wants in the night and when she's tired or poorly.

It's just a different facet of her relationship with each parent and I love that my DP get son so well with DD. It makes me smile so much when I see how excited she gets to see him.

seoladair · 09/03/2012 21:32

Yes, that's true as well. I guess we just have different roles in her little baby mind!

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Tee2072 · 09/03/2012 21:34

Absolutely different roles! It's just recently our son, who is nearly 2.9, will even let his daddy comfort him when he falls or whatever. It used to be all mummy all the time.

Which can be exhausting!

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