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Struggling with broken sleep

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Fcas · 06/03/2012 19:21

Really unsure how to deal with this, any advice welcome.

DS 7mth slept in crib in my room, but started waking up after 2hrs of sleep on an evening, as the crib was becoming too small. I have now moved him into his own room which he will happily go to sleep in his cot, after his bedtime bottle, with no problems. But again is waking up 2/3 hrs later and will not settle. I have tried everything I can think of.. top up feed, winding, teething problems, changing nappy etc. I attempted controlled crying and got as far as 45 min and couldnt take it anymore as he was more or less turning blue in the face.
The only thing that will settle him when he wakes up is to lay with him in my bed.. which I do NOT want to keep doing.

As above any help/advice greatly apreciated!!

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SkiBumMum · 06/03/2012 19:23

No advice but wanted to share your pain. It's bloody awful this sleep deprivation thing. 6m in here and I sometimes want to run away from it all. Just go and be me again . You're not alone!

thisisyesterday · 06/03/2012 19:25

quite frankly i'd go with lying on the bed. path of least resistance and all that.

he's only 7 months old... he wants you! so cuddle him to sleep and then put him back in the cot

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Fcas · 06/03/2012 19:31

SkiBumMum - That is exactly how I feel.. but dont you find their smiles in the day make it all worth while.. just the nights!

this is yesterday - thats the thing.. I will happily cuddle him to sleep, but as soon as I lay him in the cot again he screams and screams! So frustrating I can do the same thing over and over and still will continue to scream. He just wants to sleep in my bed

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olivo · 06/03/2012 19:45

Sleep deprivation is hideous - I am now 5 1/2 years in and you have to go with whatever allows you some sleep, IMO. Is there a particualr reason you dont want him in your bed? can yuo let him fall asleep in your bed then move him?

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Fcas · 06/03/2012 19:51

I don't sleep when he is in my bed as I am terrified I will roll over on him. I do not move all night. I have always been told not to have them in your bed?

I keep trying to move him but he just wakes up screaming as I try laying him down.. its so strange as when he goes to bed we have no problems at all!

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olivo · 06/03/2012 20:01

I understand that, I was like that with DD1 and got less sleep because of it! With DD2, I was so tired, that, having studied the risks, I treid it and it was the only way for us to beat exhaustion.

With them both, I slept with them in their rooms, for a good few months after moving them in. Could you try that? He may just want someone near. After a while, I left the matress in there and just used it from the middle of the night when they needed to settle.

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Fcas · 06/03/2012 20:05

Think I might have to try something like that.. I think its just a case of trial and error.
Its just so frustrating when he goes to sleep so easily in the first place!

thanks for the advice.

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olivo · 06/03/2012 20:09

remember their sleeping phases change loads when they are that little - he might come out of that pattern soon!
(sleep deprived but optimistic sums me up! )

thisisyesterday · 06/03/2012 20:13

we ended up taking the side off the cot and pushing it up to the bed for ds2, worked a treat.
couldn't be arsed with ds3, he had to sleep in with me lol

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Fcas · 06/03/2012 20:16

It just seems like hes never going to sleep ever again at this point!! lol Im living off redbull!

Our room isn't big enough for his cotbed in with us unfortunatly :(

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diyqueen · 07/03/2012 12:18

If it gives you any hope, dd (11 months) was exactly like that and we co-slept from 5 months til very recently, when she suddenly decided she liked her cot. Last night she slept through for the first time (wooohooo!), strange as it's happened very quickly, a month ago she was still up about three times a night. We've done no sleep training, and I think for her co-sleeping was the reassurance she needed, and it was great for me as she'd be awake for minutes in the night rather than waking herself up completely by yelling and taking ages to settle (though she is breastfed so used to have a quick feed, not sure how this works with bottle-feeding). We'll do it again if she needs comfort in the night. I have a mattress on the floor in her room (so she can't hurt herself if she rolls off). we've always settled her in her cot at the start of the night, then when she first wakes, as long as it's after our bedtime, I move into her room. We started cosleeping in the other room after the first wake-up partly to give DP some sleep, as the constant waking on top of a demanding full-time job was starting to affect his health, and it's worked for us.

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