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PLEASE HELP! She's driving me mad

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mexicanmum · 30/01/2006 13:53

My 2 year old daughter hasn't touched any food since yesterday so she must be hungry but she won't eat, she is too tired but she wouldn't go to sleep. Now everytime I give her the food she throws the food and the drink. I don't know what to do, I don't want to end up smacking her.
All she wants is milk!! has anybody gone through this?

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cod · 30/01/2006 13:53

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Enid · 30/01/2006 13:54

she is prob poorly

dont smack her!!

nailpolish · 30/01/2006 13:56

she sounds frustrated and tired because she is ill. make her a nice cosy drink of milk and cuddle up with her on the couch, stick toy story dvd in and get a blanket. or even better both of you lie in your bed and watch telly. she will feel safe and warm and may have a sleep, even if she doesnt sleep she will have a rest. give her calpol. if she has a sore throat you could offer her some ice cream

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mexicanmum · 30/01/2006 13:59

tHANKS FOR THE QUICK RESPONSES. I counted up to ten when I came to write this message. I had to leave her in the naughty step.
I started giving her calpol since yesterday. she only seems to behave like this when it is time to have her food. At any other time she is happy running and playing.

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WigWamBam · 30/01/2006 14:00

Sounds as if she has a bug. Don't smack her, and don't force her to eat food she doesn't want or can't eat. Let her have milk, or whatever else she fancies - this isn't behavioural, it's illness.

nailpolish · 30/01/2006 14:01

dont worry about the not eating. it may be sore for her to swallow. just forget about it and let her know she can have something if she wants. my dd1 has a sore throat and she didnt have any tea last night, but i gave her icecream for supper

cod · 30/01/2006 14:02

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mexicanmum · 30/01/2006 14:06

she has stopped screaming now, but neighbours would think that she's been tortured or something cause she can cry and scream for the whole of the UK.
I will give her the warm milk (which is the only thing she wants) and try to lie down with her, HOPEFULLY she'll sleep and feel better later.

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Fimbo · 30/01/2006 14:06

My ds lives on yoghurt when he has a sore throat

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mexicanmum · 30/01/2006 14:36

IT WORKED!! Thanks to the suggestions, she is now sleeping. I think I am the one with the problem not my daughter, cause I can't seem to know her well or to understand her needs. I am such a bad mum (a complete failure) cause just like now,I could have avoided my daughter and me getting stressed out by just giving her what she wants. Trouble is that she always gets all she wants and because she's been playing up with me all the mealtimes since she was 7 months old so eveytime she does it, I can't help but to remember that and tend to forget what the real problem.

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NotQuiteCockney · 30/01/2006 14:39

Everyone struggles with them at this age, they're quite hard work, they can't explain what they want, and sometimes it's hard to tell if they're ill or tired or hungry or just a two-year-old.

starlover · 30/01/2006 14:45

yu aren't a bad mum at all! just relax a bit and take it as it comes...

you say she has been "playing up" at mealtimes since 7 months... a 7 month old can't play up. really.. they either want food or they don't.
maybe because you have perceived her as being naughty or playing up mealtimes have now become a bit of a battle?

she'll eat if she's hungry.. don't try and force her or it'll make it worse.

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mexicanmum · 30/01/2006 14:46

I wish I could learn more about becoming a good parent. I regret now putting her in the naughty step and left her scream and cry for a long while, and then within less than 10 mins she was sleeping after a warm drink of milk. Thank god there are places like this to get other people's ideas and thoughts. SO MANY THANKS

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NotQuiteCockney · 30/01/2006 16:11

starlover is entirely right about food. It really isn't worth having a battle.

About putting her on the naughty step, it's tricky, particularly as they get older. My DS1 is 4, so even if he's ill, I'd like him to behave reasonably well ... it's just a really tricky area.

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