DS had a rope put around his neck at nursery

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I have already spoken to the HT about it and will be speaking to her again tomorrow. I am concerned that the children were not being supervised properly for this to have happened and also I'm not happy with the way it was handled.

What do you think is acceptable to happen with the child that did it? His mum hasn't been informed about what he did and my DS has a mark on his neck from the rope. This isn't the first incident with this particular child but its the first time my DS has received a mark on his body, usually its just pushing, pulling and punching. I don't know how much more DS will take before he hits the boy back, so far he has resisted hitting back.

Sounds shocking but hard to comment without knowing a bit more about how it happened. Sounds as if nursery need to be MUCH more vigilant though. How old are the children?

They are only 3 and 4, they're in nursery class.

The teacher didn't tell me about it, I saw DS's neck and asked the teacher what had happened. They weren't sure exactly what happened but DS said that X was trying to tie him and 2 others up.

I actually work at the school and I know what the procedure is for accidents but none were followed. The incident wasn't recorded in the accident book and I wasn't given a form which should be standard.

I think I'd complain in writing. If there was a mark and your ds told you about it it most certainly should have been written in the accident book shouldn't it? Poor ds. Question their ratios too, I would.

Kids do play roughly, and I wouldn't be alarmed that this happened. But I would be alarmed about no accident book report etc.

I worked with younger kids, and I remember one putting a cord around her own neck, and us being quite alarmed by this. No accident report was made, but I remember telling her mum about it, so she knew, in case her daughter did it again ...

I understand how things that happen in the blink of an eye can be missed at nursery. But, I think any child would resist/object long and loudly to having a rope put around their neck with an attempt to tie them up. Seems to me that should have caused a ruckus and it's unforgiveable that the teacher didn't notice.

I would be very unhappy with the lax supervision that allowed it to happen at all, but livid with the fact that it wasn't reported/procedures weren't followed. You're entrusting them with your child, and based on what you've posted, they've failed miserably.

I would complain, not so much about the actual incident, shocking as it is, but more about the fact that neither you nor the other childs parent was informed.

Something like this happened to my Ds when in yr1. he was being bullied by a girl, who was a lot bigger than him, one day she put a skipping rope round his neck and pulled it, he was left with a rop burn, we took photos and told the head that if it wasn't sorted out we would go to the police. The girl was given supervision at lunch time and break time to make sure it didn't happen again.

DH wasn't happy about it, he wants me to approach the parent about it on Monday but she is too scary!!!

I think I will leave that the nursery teacher. I don't want the HT to tell off the nursery teacher but I want to be reassured that this isn't going to happen again.

I would definitely not approach the parent, but go through the Head, or the nursery teacher.

it's shouldn't be up to you to approach the parent in question - nursery should have dealt with it acording to ofsted guidelines for such incidents.
As you know, accident form should have been filled in, signed by you and acknowliged by the other parent etc. That's the correct procedure and should be followed at all times. We get accident forms even when dd has an accident by herself without other kids being involved.
I think this is something you must resolve with nursery manager and if nothing happens, change nurseries and report this one to ofsted.
This is what I'd do if that was my dd's nursery. Especially after reading of two (separate) incidents in nurseries in the last few months - one with a baby who got strangled strangled in cot with a drawstring bag and another where a child was badly burnt on face. We trust nursery staff to look after our children and make sure they're safe - there is no excuse for not informing you of such serious incident - even if the other child didn't meant to hurt yours.

I spoke to several people at the nursery about this today. They have reassured me this will not happen again, the 2 ropes have been removed from the nursery playground.

I received an appology from the nursery teacher, the nursery nurse and the deputy head teacher. The parent was being informed tonight when she collected her child from nursery, the child has also been spoken to about how dangerous it could have been.

I am pleased that an incident report has now been done and that they have a record of it. Hopefully this is the end of it, but I think if something like this happens again, they will have learned from their mistakes. I certainly don't expect to have to chase people up to find out why my son had a skipping rope put around his neck.

absolutely. glad it sorted itself out

I am going throught the exact same thing right now with my daughter , she had a rope tied round her neck and left with a nasty rope burn. The school failed to see this as a severity and didnt inform me nor the other parent nor logged it in accident book!! I am not impressed. awaiting outcome now.

I think that this sort of thing should be treated as being quite serious. Children need to learn that they must never put anything around their own or other children's necks. The nursery staff should have reported this and dealt with it without you having to chase them up.