Does anyone have a 4 year old who has lots of wee accidents

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and is 'difficult' about going to the loo for a poo.....I know he needs to go and when I finally get him there he has marked his pants.
I have tried sending him to the loo regually but still we have daily issues.
Help! He has no interest in chats/stars etc :(

i had one, he's 12 now, and has only just about started giving a damn about whether his pants are revolting by the end of the day! i have no advice, nothing worked, only him getting older and realising his contemporaries weren't doing the same thing.

he still thinks i'm outrageous for suggesting he has a shower more than once a week, love him.

On gosh......could be a long haul then :(

I have advice. This is one of the ways in which constipation and stool withholding manifests itself. He may be constipated (I know he's soiling his pants - this is when the liquid stuff seeps around the hard stuff) or just withholding (and not entirely succeeding, hence the soiling), and the wee accidents come as part of the package, as attempts to withhold wee are ultimately doomed to failure, unlike withholding poo where kids can manage it for quite a while.

This book is excellent. It was recommended to me by another mner. www.amazon.co.uk/Constipation-Withholding-Your-Child-Soiling/dp/1843104911/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330554964&sr=1-1

Also, your GP can help. My DS takes movicol daily, which makes his stools softer (so he can't withhold them, and they're not painful to pass) and it has made a huge, huge difference to family life, and the amount of washing I have to do. He's been on movicol for over a year, and we still have our ups and downs - he's 4 and in reception, and won't poo in the school loos so is having a little spate of accidents - but I'm amazed at how much better it has got.

Have the school been nice about it?

people were always nice about it with my ds. i'm pretty sure once he gets into the swing of school the problem will recede.

The school have been great about it. Fantastic. In that they're very low key and nonchalant and make it a non-issue - don't make a fuss and give him lots of attention, but don't let him know it's a problem. I did mention it in detail on the health details form before he started.