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How can I get DS (2.7) to eat faster?!

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whenskiesaregrey · 28/02/2012 21:03

He takes an absolute age to eat. For example, a bowl of shreddies this morning took 1 hour 30 minutes. We are talking a very small bowl of cereal, out of a small child's bowl. It will take over an hour to eat a sandwich. Once I sat with him in Costa while it took him 2 and a half hours to eat a panini. He will feed himself, but we end up helping him so speed him along, but to be honest, it doesn't help that much as he will just go at his own pace. He wants the food, he is not necessarily fussy, he just chews everything to absolute oblivion and takes the most minute bites. He baulks (sp?) very easily, so will only put tiny bits of food on his fork. He is growing as he should/ developing as you would expect because eventually he eats the food. If I go to take the food away from him, he tells me he hasn't finished and wants to keep eating.

Where it is an issue is when we need to be somewhere. We usually end up taking food with us. It also has an impact on the day's meals, because he takes so long to eat his breakfast, he is not that interested in his lunch. He has very rarely finished eating his tea by half 6; I usually have it ready for him by 5pm/ half 5.

He isn't really motivated by food, even treats. He isn't bothered about chocolate/ sweets and takes just as long to eat those. His favourite tea is pasta, but that will still take him over an hour to eat.

The only physiological issue I can think of is that he has very big tonsils; they touch in the middle. However, when I have mentioned it to the GP, he said they should just act like saloon doors, and move out of the way when swallowing. I had my tonsils out a 4 years old, so I have no idea what it feels like to have them!

How can I get him to eat faster?!?! TIA.

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TeWihara · 28/02/2012 21:24

DD had this phase.

I confess if she started faffing about she would have x many minutes and then the meal would be over whether she's finished or not, then would keep reminding her throught the meal if she started slowing down again.

I haven't had to do it recently so either she grew out of it or it worked!

I'm not sure what the answer is with the tonsils, but if a few weeks of giving him less time to eat doesn't speed him up/change his habits at all I would go back to the GP.

whenskiesaregrey · 28/02/2012 21:38

This has probably been going on for over 12 months. It's driving me mad! I think I will start taking his food off him, but I have got a feeling he won't be that bothered!

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TeWihara · 28/02/2012 21:40

It does sound to me that if a limited time doesn't work there might be a medical reason behind it, hopefully whatever the problem it is easily solved. Good luck.

whenskiesaregrey · 28/02/2012 21:49

Thanks :) I have mentioned it to the GP, so that should be on record. I don't know if he just has a small mouth? But if that's the case then I don't know what I am meant to do!

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my2princesses · 28/02/2012 22:22

I feel your pain, my 4.9 DD1 is exactly the same and has been for a very long time. We've tried everything from a timer to sending her to bed if she doesn't eat faster. Her problem is that she chats for England whilst eating and chews every mouthfull for ages :( Although she will scoff a chocolate bar/sweet in no time and save a little bit for later! We've just stopped trying to make her eat faster now as it was upsetting everyone.
DD2 (2.1) is the opposite :)

whenskiesaregrey · 28/02/2012 22:48

Well at least there is some reassurance in the next one won't necessarily be the same! But what do you do when you need to be somewhere? Or you're having a meal out and everyone has finished while your DC is still eating their stone cold food?? I'm sure he doesn't realise food is meant to be eaten warm!

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leftmymistletoeatthedoor · 28/02/2012 23:05

Ds (5) is like this and consequently very rarely has much at school at lunchtime. No solutions other than what's already been suggested, I wouldn't be happy about tonsils that meet in the middle and would possibky try to get referred to ENT.

Dd (17m) eats so much so quickly she forgets to breathe and looks like a hamster then spits it all out so she can breathe and then re-eats it.

My children are a DELIGHT to take out for dinner.

whenskiesaregrey · 29/02/2012 16:25

After DS I'd gladly have a child that regurgitates (sp?!) over a child that eats like a mouse!!

mistletoe re. the tonsils, GP has said the only solution would be to take them out which they won't do without 5-6 episodes of tonsilitis in 12 months.

Argh MN, are you telling me this is just the way it is?! Nooo!

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