Should we bother with the dummy fairy?

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dd is 2.9. For the last week she has gone to sleep without her dummies (she had several) with very little trouble- just needing a bit more cuddling. She has asked about them a few times but amazingly I've been able to distract her.

This is such a surprise to me-I honestly thought she'd neve be able to go to sleep without them.

I still haven't officially taken them away though- I wanted to keep them as a back up in case things went belly up (eg if she couldn't settle if she woke in the night)

But am now wondering if it's time to make a clean break from them and send them to the dummy fairy or will this just remind her of what she's missing out on?

Added to this I was due to have dc2 on Saturday so there will be a new baby possibly with their own dummy in the house v soon.

Any thoughts?

Go with the flow, don't do anything rash - too much going on and she's still very young - what happens if the new baby wants a dummy? my eldest still had one at 6 (just at bedtime) - because of my younger two

Before reading the last bit about new baby, I would've said just get rid of them and don't make her aware, but it might be best just hiding them so you still have them if needed. I think you need to chose whether or not you're willing to give her dummy back if she asks for it (when she sees the babys')

Hopfully this helps, though I'm not speaking from experience (DS only had a dummy a few times, spat it out repeatedly at 2mo.)

Good luck x

I think you should keep them just as a back up, just in case she gets dummy envy. If the new baby needs a dummy and she asks about hers then you could say "you used to have them but now you're a big girl you don't need them, you can give them to your baby brother or sister as a present". Also if she has any younger cousins who have dummies she'll feel like the big girl and not jealous-Hopefully!

Cool-thanks for advice.
Won't do anything drastic- will just hope that she continues to do so well- it continues to astound me that she is able to fall asleep without them!

I am in exactly the same situation. Due imminently with DC2 and DS1 is 2.7 and loves his dummies at night.

We've told him that the dummy fairy will take away his dummies when he's ready to exchange them for a toy that he wants. I'm inclined just to leave it like that for the moment as the new baby is bound to complicate the issue if he ends up using dummies too. He might decide to take up her offer if he wants to be seen as the 'big boy' or he might need their comfort more than ever and regress a bit. I just don't know how he'll react so I'm leaving it for a while.

Have you talked to her about the dummy for toy exchange programme, and has she shown any interest if so?

We did have a few vague discussions about the exchange process before I decided on impulse to try one night without and she was mildly interested but not eager in any way!

I can't emphasise how very attached she was to her dummies up until last week. She only had them at night (and for naps when she had them) but I can count on the fingers of 1 hand the number of times she fell asleep without them in the last 2 years (and that was only ever in the car or pushchair).

I would have bet a large amount of money that she wouldn't fall asleep without them.

So it may be worth you trying similar?