My eldest is just three, and he keeps hitting his one year old twin brothers. It's not like an act of aggression - he's not an aggressive child - but almost as though he absentmindedly can't help himself from putting things on their heads. That sounds like I'm making an excuse - I not - he does it with no emotion at all and it's as though he's forgotten he mustn't do it. Often they can be playing apparently nicely and then he'll pick up a car and hit them on the head a few times. Yesterday he did it with a bloody great pebble from the garden. My nerves are shredded - I feel like I can't leave him within arms reach of the twins even if I'm in the room. I get sick of hearing myself talking to him about it/ignoring bad behaviour and rewarding good/sticker charts etc etc and NOTHING seems to be making a difference.
He is being assessed for a receptive language delay but at nursery with his peers he's fine, although he has thrown something at a baby - never a child.
What on earth do I do? He does it almost every time the babies are nearby, even if he's been playing nicely. There is no warning apart from perhaps a bit of boredom - and that means that lately he's been getting even more of my attention to the detriment of my two one year olds.
I'm at the end of my rope with it. 