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24 month old having difficulty with pronouns

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Kalypso · 22/02/2012 18:05

DS has just turned two and he has had a language spurt in the last couple of months, with his sentences getting more complex. However, he'll often say "You want that one" (for example) instead of "I want that one", or "You bumped your head" when he means that he's bumped his head. If I prompt, "ah, but what does DS need to say?" he'll respond with the correct answer, i.e "I bumped my head".
Is this a normal development? He doesn't have a sibling to copy (so therefore he hasn't really experienced any "Mine!...No, MINE!" type arguments!) and he's used to hearing us talking to and about him, so he does hear 'you' and 'yours' a lot more than 'I', 'me' or 'my'. I haven't heard any other toddlers talking like this, though!

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FourThousandHoles · 22/02/2012 18:08

Well I'm no expert but I would say that it's completely normal. I have a 29mo who still does this occasionally and I know children as old as 3 who can't speak as well as your ds can.

If you're concerned then maybe you could speak to your health visitor, but to be honest he sounds fine, if anything a bit ahead of the game.

Chundle · 22/02/2012 18:10

Omg for a 24 month old he has loads of words. I really wouldn't worry yet kids often get pronouns muddled between ages of 2-3

ilovedjasondonovan · 22/02/2012 18:12

My nearly 4yrold still gets he/she mixed up. ts quite sweet really.
Your DS sounds perfectly normal. My DD1 didn't speak a word until she was gone 2, so your son is doing prilliantly.

south345 · 22/02/2012 18:12

My 24 month old has started saying 3-4 word sentences but probably only clear to me. At his 2 year check a couple of weeks ago she said that was really good, he says things like me juice or my falled but I don't correct him as he can say mummy's juice or daddy's juice if it's ours so he'll eventually correct it, ds1 did cant remember what age but he had speech problems.

InmaculadaConcepcion · 22/02/2012 18:41

Totally normal. It takes even the more advanced talkers a while to "get" pronouns and how to correctly apply them. Not surprising when we refer to our LOs as "you" - so they naturally apply that pronoun to themselves. We refer to ourselves as "I", so they apply that one to us.

They sort it out after a while.

My DD is 25 months and does exactly the same, but she's already starting to get it right occasionally.

He'll get there! He's well ahead of a lot of his peers as it is.

Pozzled · 22/02/2012 18:43

Totally normal, and he will naturally pick up the correct way as he gets older.

mosschops30 · 22/02/2012 18:46

My 2.3 yr old still doesnt speak Sad so count yourself lucky!

eggtimer · 22/02/2012 19:49

My DT's (2 yrs 5 months) had the best conversation at supper the other night.
DS1
DS2: Say 'Pardon me'
DS1: Pardon you
DS2: No. Say pardon you
DS1: Pardon me.
DS2: Thank you.
I wish I had caught it on camera!

They speak really well, but still muddle their pronouns.....

rhetorician · 22/02/2012 19:56

DD1, now 3, did this for a while and she is a pretty good talker. When you think about it, it IS pretty hard, particularly learning that you have to use a pronoun to refer to yourself as well as others (so a subject is also an object, grammatically). She rarely gets it wrong now, but did say on the way home tonight 'all those houses, they're not usses [ours], they're everyone else's'. She hasn't quite the hang of irregular verbs yet, either. Totally normal

AprilSkies · 22/02/2012 20:01

Completely normal, 2 is quite early for pronouns. 2.5 to 3 is probably more accurate although it obviously depends.

Girlsville · 22/02/2012 21:48

My DD1 is 24 months and exactly the same. She says things like "Mummy push you in buggy" "Mummy carry you" all the time when she actually means mummy carry/push ME. I think its a normal stage of language development!

Kalypso · 28/02/2012 21:12

Thanks everyone, and sorry for the late response. I'm glad to hear this is a normal part of development :) Mosschops, it's funny how they develop different things at different times - I really do appreciate DS' talking, especially as he was a very late babbler. I think his physical development has had to take a backseat, however, as he's as clumsy as anything and even manages to hurt himself at soft play if I'm not watching him like a hawk.
Back to the pronoun thing; we are definitely having some success with responding, "DS says...?" when he says something like "You want to play with your trains", and he'll then reply with "I want to play with my trains". If I don't say anything, he has started occasionally correcting himself. Some phrases seem to have sunk in, like "hold my hand" and "cuddle me" - I guess the ones he uses most (and with most urgency!)
Thanks all.

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MavisGrind · 28/02/2012 21:18

Sounds perfectly normal - at that age my DS2 was the same - I actually really miss him standing there, arms aloft, imploring "Carry you". (He's just shy of 3 now, so, you know a big boys now..) Grin

yousankmybattleship · 28/02/2012 21:20

At 24 months my Ds could only say duck. I'd say your're doing fine!

clam · 28/02/2012 21:29

If it makes you feel any better, my sister's twins used to say things like "us am went" - at age 5!
They're both about to graduate from University with honours!

ShowOfHands · 28/02/2012 21:38

It's normal and clever. He's repeating what he hears. You call him 'you', he assumes that 'you' refers to him. Just carry on using language normally around him and it will click. It is a really tough thing to grasp at that age. DD spoke fairly fluently at 2, except for pronouns which was pretty odd to hear. She would say 'mama can I sit on my knee?' for example.

BlackSwan · 28/02/2012 21:52

We get "mummy pick you up" and generally swapping "you" for "me/I" at 25 months. Interesting to read this - such similar development.

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