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I need some advice about my soon to be 13 year old please :)

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idobelieveinfairies · 21/02/2012 15:49

I have 8 children 19-7 years. My DS who will be 13 next month concerns me. Ever since he was a baby i have had concerns about him being able to socialise. He doesn't seem to like people. My health visitor spotted a potential problem and she was able to rush through a nursery place for him. The nursery and then primary school have always said he is so well behaved and very shy.

At home he doesn't speak much, if he is a talkable mood you can get a conversation from him otherwise it's just one word answers. We can't push this as he will kick off.

He has lots of friends who all think he is hilarious!?! I feel like he has two different personalities sometimes.

When he was 5 he saw an educational pyschologist, and he failed some sort of test that i had to take in describing him. The outcome was to see what he was like at school..which then was always fine.

He has always had a temper..as a toddle he would chuck tricyles etc at anyone that had annoyed him. Nothing verbal..just physical.

It then died down from age 7 until 3 months ago.... but it has all come back. He is very violent and has pulled a knife on a sibling. He clears surfaces and punches doors...for sometimes no reason apart from someone looking at him funny. I thought i'd be able to control this....but as he is getting bigger i think we have a problem.

I can't leave him at home with any of the other children, well the 19 year old but she is at uni now. I have to start work again and i'm very concerned about leaving them in the house.

Is this some sort of normal teenage behaviour that so far i have not had to encounter with my older teenagers???

Would you take him to the GP? Is the GP the first port of call? I honestly don't think he can control his anger.

Any advice would be much appreciated :)

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idobelieveinfairies · 21/02/2012 15:53

Ohhhh...i thought i was on the teenager section........Confused

doh!

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Lilicat1013 · 21/02/2012 17:05

Pulling a knife on a sibling really isn't normal or acceptable so I would think that seeking help would be a good idea.
Your GP would be a first point of contact as they can refer you on to the relevant services, possibly your local CAMHS who would be able to support and advise you.
If he does have trouble controlling his anger it would definitely be best to get this issue sorted when he is younger rather than letting it continue and potentially get him in to trouble as he gets older.

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