Accidentally on purpose...please help, at a loss to know what to do.

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Wasn't sure where to post this so I started this thread in potty training as DS's main symptom is deliberately wetting himself but he has (had) previously been toilet trained for over a year. He has also stopped listening to/following instructions...it is all about control really. Please take a look, thanks.

I would ignore it completely and make a massive positive fuss about anything else he does that's good. It seems like an attention thing. Do lots of 'big boy jobs' make him feel special for being older, posting letters, cooking ect. If he likes something in particular you could start collecting it if he manages a dry night, if he doesn't manage it a quick never mind we'll try again tomorrow. I think the less fuss you make the less they bother. I'd do a few over the top, you can't do this cause you're a baby this is a special thing for big boys, to the little one too.

Thanks Duke, I think you're right. We were letting it get to us too much. We've now introduced a reward chart for completely dry days but if he has an accident we've just ignored it and he has had three basically dry days now. He still isn't back to going independently but he is at least going when asked so we seem to be heading the right direction for the time being.

Well that's a good start heh. Keep at it he'll get there in the end. Little ones are very quick to understand what gets a reaction good or bad. Hope you get sorted soon.