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I feel really sad that i struggle so much to get along with this child.

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gigglepin · 16/02/2012 17:57

Its my neice who is 8.
I LOVE kids, have allot around me, i have 8 God children and a son of my own. Love thier company and have a lovely relationship with them all.

I struggle with her and i have tried and tried over the years.

I find her very difficult, she is more demanding than any child i have ever met, she is quite dominating and, awful to say but she is sneeky and has the ability to tap into what "winds" people up and exploits it to the maximum.
Other kids find her intolerable, and all end up falling out with her because of this.
He behaviour screams attention seeking, so i have tried to pay her attention, loads of positive praise, and chat with her, but she makes it such hard work.
She is actually a very very bright little girl and very in tune with people.

I really want to enjoy her company and help her mum out by having her over to play more, but on previouse occasions, she has caused uproar and i have had to take her home early because non of us can tolerate her behaviour.

Its such a shame, i wish i knew how to tap into her and have a better relationship with her because i know that she needs understanding and kindness. I feel that she is "lost" now becuase no one knows how to connect with her.
My sister is called into school probably on a weekly basis because of her behaviour issues.
What am i missing and what can i do? Any advice on an alternative way of looking at this would be very much appreciated.
Thanks x

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oldmum42 · 16/02/2012 18:36

winds people up by doing what? Causes an uproar by doing what?

what are the behaviour issues at school?

Does she have siblings and if so, how does she behave with them? How does she get on with adults when there are no other children present?

If she is left to her own devices, what does she enjoy doing or gravitate towards.

Sorry, just think not enough actual information to make useful suggestions!

ragged · 16/02/2012 18:53

It does sound like her needs aren't being met, which would explain her difficult behaviour. I suppose strategy could be to identify those needs & help her to identify them, too.

Ilovedaintynuts · 17/02/2012 09:33

Some kids are just difficult I think. She may have an anti-social personality.

WisteriaWoman · 17/02/2012 19:40

What does your sister / her mum say. How does she cope with this behaviour?
It sounds like no one is giving her boundaries....

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