14 month old being a tinker

[OnlyWantsOne]

When I say tinker, I mean bloody hard work

Dd2 has started pulling cross faces, if she doesn't get her own way - eg dd1 in her way or I shut a kitchen cupboard she screeches as loud as she can and then smacks me or her sister, or the dog...

What do I do? If I say no, don't hit mummy she LAUGHS and if I ignore her and move away she follows me and continues.

it's easier being at work

Mine is 12 months and number 5 but ive never experienced such strength or determination.She kicks off big time at nappy or getting dressed. Her fav trick is to throw back her head as hard as possible,so much so that me and dh have discussed putting her down as soon as she does it for fear of broken teeth or noses (seriously)
We are strong fit people and have to use full strength to hold her still. sweet and happy just very strong and determined
The one thing id say about the hitting is put her down with no communiation whatsoever and walk away so she gets no rewards for it.
Im finding it very hard,in fact i cant post anymore as she is trying to wrestle my lap top from me and screaming.

repetition, repetition, repetition...

you have to KEEP saying no, KEEP moving her out of the way, KEEP ignoring her...and conversely, KEEP rewarding her for good behaviour. you cannot punish her, as it won't work.

Deep breath and count to ten is a good starting point

Seriously, 14 months is a fascinating, lovely and equally hellish age for many and you will find lots of threads on here from mums of tantruming 14 month olds. It comes as a shock because you always hear about the 'terrible twos' and expect you have another 10 months or so before you're in for trouble.

Repeat 'no', explanation (e.g 'hot, ouch') and move them away. Then ignore the tantrum and don't give in. Clearly if they're very distressed they may need help to calm down at that age because i've heard it's a bit like them blowing a fuse as they have so little control over their emotions. Give her plenty of opportunity to exercise her independence (like climbing the stairs with you behind her, or give her access to a cupboard full of tupperware you don't mind her having etc). DS has just started slapping my hands away when i try to stop him doing something. I hold him steady, look him directly in the eyes and say firmly, but not shouting "No. You don't hit mummy, it hurts - ouch." And then i put him down and walk away, ignoring anything that follows - smiles, frowns, tantrum or whatever. He's slowly getting the message now.

Oh she's being a Madame today

Throwing her self around and screaming if I don't hold her - argh

Going to take them to the park and let them run free!!

my 14 month old grandson will hit you,and if say no it hurts or pretend to cry h elaughs and hits you more,i think he likes the reaction.he has just started to throw himself on the floor,if you tell him off,he makes me laugh,such a drama queen.