14 month old gets so angry, so frustrated

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My DS is generally a really laid back, sweet little man. But he has bursts of getting really frustrated/anger. Typically, it will be around food - if we're preparing it and he can see this but it doesn't reach the table quick enough; or if he wants something and we can't get to it quick enough; or if we say no to something.

He's communicative - makes lots of noise to be seen before pointing/reaching towards what he wants; but the flip side is this screwed up face, real burst of frustration when it doesn't go his way.

He's not yet walking, only pulling up, and although he has a few words, he's obviously not communicating verbally that well - is this because he is frustrated with not walking/talking? Or have we got a demon baby on our hands . It's quite wearing.

(He's also teething a lot - about 3-4 teeth look like they are about to come through, and 2 just have - so i'm sure that doesn't help)

Any thoughts?

Sounds very like my DS (12 months) - baby signing has helped with a lot of frustrations, I've also started to give him something to nibble on if he can't wait or letting him start eating before is. I think 'tantrums' are very normal at this age, they want something and it's very frustrating when we say no. I'm currently reading this which talks about toddlers being little cavemen (emotions take over 'rational' thought/listening/reason) its a little different but making sense so far. We had great success with the baby book so I'm trusting the ideas even though they seem a bit bonkers odd.

It all sounds perfectly normal, and you're not alone. We call it 'Baby Rage'!

Thanks, I'll take a look

My 14mo is very similar! Without fail just before mealtimes while I'm trying to throw something together he gets very very cross-I don't know if it is my unavailability or just hunger or possibly teething (he only has 2 atm)-best trick I have which might work for you is to put him in his highchair facing me in our tiny tiny kitchen and give him something to nibble on while I plate up the food and take it to the table. After meals he is always back to his usual cheery self thank god.

You are definitely not alone! :)

very normal behaviour, and in fact turns into Toddler Rage quite seamlessly. !! A friends baby will stand at the cooker and howl at the very word "cooking" as to him it means "food.for.me.will.happen.NOW" and mine will, at 27m and perfectly capable of telling me what food he wants, still be reduced to a raging howl at a cafe table if I don't produce a drink and put it in front of him the second we're in there, I'm not even allowed to take my coat off!!!! :)

Thank you all for making me feel like I don't have a demon baby!

But it's not just food. The other day we were at a friend who has put child locks on her kitchen cupboard doors (unlike us, and he loves a rummage in one particular cupboard which I allow). She opened the cupboard briefly and he got in. Then it shut and the lock locked it. He screwed up face and went into-instant-rage-you-must-open-it...honestly, it was 1 to 10 in 3 seconds...until he was distracted by an empty bottle or something equally mundane.

is that sort of stuff also part of the baby rage deal?

I reckon! from what I've read and also seen so far with my boy and others, I think its because a)they can't control or regulate their emotions just yet, so when one takes over - anger, annoyance, sadness, happiness - its HUGE! and immediate and ultra important. and also they have very little concept of time so waiting for something to happen is very difficult , things like later, in a minute, etc, mean nothing to them yet, and so of course when something 'bad' happens (like mummy saying no to my LO making a pattern on the floor with his milk today ho hum) then the instant rage happens as they cannot understand how it will all be ok again in a second - conversely, this is also why they can be distracted in a heartbeat thankfully! fickle little devils darlings...

I just logged on to post basically exactly the same thing. My DS gets so incredibly angry and upset. He is 15 months. My daughter was so much easier to pacify/distract. But DS gets worked up so incredibly easily. I can't passify him unless I give him his dummy or, if it is the early morning, breast feed him. I find him really hard to say NO to because he gets so insanely worked up. This morning he was shaking he got so angry because he wanted me to feed him. And that was after five minutes of my husband trying to pacify him. But he was hysterical. I have never done controlled crying with him, and unlike my daughter, he has had a dummy. He is very attached to his dummy (even though we tried only giving it to him at bedtime). We ended up giving it to him a little more when he started teething because it made him so incredibly miserable.
Does this all sound normal? I'm worried that I should say no more, and just let him scream himself silly. But As you can imagine, I don't want to leave him in such distress.
Any ideas?