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"Mummy I've done a poopoo on the dining table"

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Melpomene · 23/01/2006 18:45

Today, dd1 (2.9) has wee-ed on her bed twice, and then smeared poo all over our dining table, over the seat of an upholstered dining chair and over a recipe book.

She has been potty-trained for 3 months or so and most days she gets through the day without an accident. She certainly knows that poo and wee belong in the potty, and I still praise her when she gets it right.

I don't mind genuine accidents, but today she has definitely been doing it deliberately.

The first time was when we got back to the house at lunchtime and I explained to her that I wanted to open an important letter that was on the doormat, then I would get her lunch straight after that. She ran upstairs to her bedroom crying, sat on her bed and wee-ed on it.

The next time was when I had to say no to her about something else; I offered a substitute but that wasn't acceptable to her and again she ran upstairs, sat on her bed and wee-ed on it.

After that I told her I was cross but that I love her, and we had a cuddle and chat. I made her some toast and she wanted to eat it in the dining room. I went to breastfeed dd2 in the sitting room, then dd1 came in and said the heart-sinking words "I've done a poopoo on the dining table". It was a truly revolting scene - she'd smeared it everywhere.

I'm not sure what sort of discipline to use for this. Normally if she makes a mess by spilling milk or painting where she shouldn't, I get her to help clean it up, but obviously that isn't an option in this case. I gave her time out, but that didn't seem to make much impact.

Help!

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starlover · 23/01/2006 18:50

hmm i think i would go down the removing things route.
remind her that wees and poos go on the potty. still praise her of course.
but if she purposely does it elsewhere then she gets something taken away.... a toy, her pudding, a treat out... anything

NotAPooEatingZebra · 23/01/2006 20:51

no wisdom, but deserves a bump

Pollyanna · 23/01/2006 20:55

How old is dd2?

Melpomene · 23/01/2006 21:04

Thanks Starlover, that sounds like a good idea.

Pollyanna, dd2 is 9 months old. DD1 is usually pretty good with her and there hasn't been much jealousy.

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Katemum · 23/01/2006 21:47

Has dd2 recently become mobile? ds only showed any jelousy once dd could get about.

Melpomene · 24/01/2006 07:56

Interesting thought Katemum, dd2 has just started crawling so maybe dd1 sees her as a bit more of a thread. I was helping dd1 do a floor puzzle in the afternoon and dd2 kept trying to crawl onto it - I made sure dd2 didn't get onto the puzzle but dd1 did get quite agitated about it.

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Melpomene · 24/01/2006 07:56

that should be threat, not thread, of course

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