My 4-year-old di not get a Valentine's card and he is devastated...

[gingercat12]

What shall I tell him?

He is a very loyal and sensitive child. He chooses present himself fro his friends' birthdays and helps me wrap them. He spent ages making a lovely card to his best friend. All the children in the nursery exchanged cards yesterday and he got none. He did not complain to us, and we could only work out what happened later. He feels completely unloved, and did not want to go back to nursery. (Although I heard him singing Happy Birthday to his best friend and himself in his bedroom.) He was not happy going to nursery this morning.

Shall I just tell him that some people are not very good at showing their feelings? I bought him a card myself, but I know he wants to be appreciated by his own friends.

Stop this nonsense now. don't buy into this drivel. I would not allow any of my children to take part in this sort of thing, and don't get me started on 'pretend weddings' at schools

Suburban - I was 42! Almost 43, when DS4 arrived, so fairly "old" in the birthing side of things, though obviously not even yet in my prime in other areas of life [hopeful emoticon]. Now 44, am kind of stuck with the name. Have a happy birthaday on friday

What TSC said.

Killimuir...... pretend weddings at school???? WTF? Not heard of that before.

I think he needs to be gently encouraged to GAFG.

There are a couple of idiot parents at school who buy Valentines cards and gifts for their child to give to their 'girlfriend/boyfriend'.

One of them got DS a box of chocs 'from' her DD last year and was hugely affronted that she got nothing in return. I explained that until DS (who was then 5) is old enough to earn money for Valentines gifts he won't be giving any.

I hope that someone else will be the victim of her randomness this year.

It was relief teacher who came up with the idea.!!! many complaints about it, thankfully never done again

What a weird and ridiculous thing for 4 year olds to be doing.

OP are you American? You use the word 'Mom'. It's a long time since my children were in nursery, but I can't imagine this scenario at all. Did you?

TSC, it's feck all to do with romance and girlfriend/boyfriend thing. They make them for everyone -girls, boys, mums, dads, the neighbour's cat. Not sexualised in any way, just a way of showing friendship and that you care.

And yes, nursery are fecking barking to a) do it at all. And b) to do it a week early.

Today, dd2 was supposed to take in an old tissue box, because they are decorating post boxes for all the Valentines they will get next week.... I am expecting a list of everyone in the class to be sent home on Friday so there are no embarrassing omissions come the day. I didn't give her a box.

So far we have ignored it every year. I suspect we can't this year.

She can have a couple of sheets of construction paper, a potato, and some paint. I'm just hoping the other two don't get sucked in.

lisaro I am not American, although not English either. I do not really get Valentine's Day, that is why we were caught unawares.

Apparently they did valentine's day this week, because it is half term next week.

I do not think DS understands boyfriend / girlfriend thing (why would he?!), but he is quite obsessed with having friends.

wannabe What does GAFG mean?

Get a fecking grip.

Probably.

To us VD (arf) is just an excuse to buy each other a little something and maybe have a meal out or treat ourselves to something - this year we've got a couple of board games we've been wanting for a while :o

i'm talking about the americanisation of valentines day sweeping the uk. feck all to do with fancying/ love. everything to do with commercialising it as a friendship and caring thing so you have to buy cards for everyone. everyone. everyone.

so you don't spend a fiver in the hope you're gonna get a snog, you spent eight times as much buying tat for the entire school class. and their dog.

tis entirely friendship and caring bollocks. (despite the fact that it clearly isn't - as the op shows, it's become a commercialised ritual where you have to give a card to everyone. or they go home thinking no-one cares. when they don't actually care anyway, they know it's just social convention to give everyone in the class a card. and the teacher. and the teacher's cat.)

vd is bizarre. has carlton cards started selling 'class packs' of vd cards yet? they do here. hundreds of the blardy things. and it's coming your way.

we are very bah humbug about the whole thing and don't ever go out.

it's def turning from a romantic one on one thang to a much more liberal outpouring of cheese.

I merchandise cards in a well known supermarket (7p valentine card anyone? )

We have packs of valentines cards, I was a bit at these. But obviously it's for people to send to their friends! (we've not sold many btw)

there'll be a rush on saturday when all the kiddlies are sent home with class lists on friday.

unless the parents stand their ground.

I have never sent a v card in my entire life

My MIL sends DP a Valentine's card every year (he's 47) which I find incredibly weird!!!?

He is an only child and may explain why she hates me for having stolen her PFB from her!!!