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Personality Change. 6 year old girl.

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LittleEsmeWeatherwax · 06/02/2012 08:26

DD1 turned 6 a few weeks ago. Before then, she was patient, funny, kind, calm responsible. Really, apart from a few childish strops, she was a legend of a kid. Now, she's really defiant, snappy and irritable, really cheeky (told me this morning that "I get on her nerves" - this for telling her to come and get a clean vest FGS) and moody. I've also noticed that she no longer seems comfortable with the way she is - she pulls odd faces, tenses up and screams with laughter (like a coiled spring) and tries to hard to be funny.

I watched another recent thread with interest about a similar aged child with worms - behavioural changes. I've also recently treated DD1 for worms. She certainly suffered sleep deprivation and I can with certainty, put her irritability at the time down to these worms Sad. She's slept better for days now though, so I hoped this spikey behaviour would pass. It hasn't.

School is fine - there are strong personalities in her class but she's always managed to 'handle' the differences. She's not a child that gets into confrontation and luckily, she's never really upset at school. Am tempted to speak to class teacher now though, to see if they've noticed any personality changes. I'm loathe to draw negative attention to her though.

As for discipline in the house, well, she's not a child who does a lot. That sounds bad doesn't it? What I mean is, she has no gadgets, no tv in rooms to confiscate, no large toys that she adores. We have removed favourite doll, drawing board, guitar, but other than that, there's nothing to remove. She does trampolining and swimming once a week, but those are more like lessons so I'm loathe to use those to remove.

God, sorry for this huge ramble. I hadn't realised how much it's upset me. Please can someone talk to me about things? I feel like I'm failing as a Mum.

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ChasTittyBeltUp · 06/02/2012 10:52

It sounds to me like she has a new friend. One who is maybe crtisising her or one whom she admires and wishes to emulate.

I have a 7 year old DD and she is up and down like a yoyo...it is normal for them to experiment with behaviour. It souunds like your idea of speaking to the teacher and seeing if she is playing with someone new is a good idea.

then you're armed...if she IS copying someone then you can invite them to tea and get to know them. And then you can deal with DD accordingly..

LittleEsmeWeatherwax · 06/02/2012 11:35

Chas, thank you. I hadn't considered this.
Determined all the more now to speak to her teacher today.

Thanks.

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ChasTittyBeltUp · 06/02/2012 12:24

The only other advice I would give is that even if you think the other child is a bad influence...don't try to make DD stop playing with her...instead teach DD about standing up for herself and being true to herself..never doing anythng because a friend said so...but always to think about what you...her Mum would say about it.

This is what I had to do when my DD in reception made a new friend who tried to pressure my DD into excluding another child....I had basic rules....be kind, treat other people in the way you want to be treated and if someone is VERY mean...tell the teacher.

It's hard but part of social devlopment.

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