Starting to hate my dd help!!

[Chirpychick2010]

I have a 2.2 dd and she is a frigging walking talking nightmare she screams NO and points sort of smacking out when doing this all the time even to passers by in the street and other children. She has bitten smacked and even tried to head butt me in her meltdown. Everything is an issue getting dressed/undressed nappy change going out staying in! I give her choices to try and help but still no change I have tried tough love which escalates the situation so I do time out now which I think is helping. She is a very bright active child but she's not having naps and wakes several times in the night so I have less sleep and less patients to deal with her. I feel like I hate her at the moment and find my self saying things and thinking things I shouldn't which I know is bad and makes me feel guilty. She is soooooo clingy to cant even go pee without screaming. I've had no sleep due to her being up so much so heaven knows how I will cope today! I watch all the other moms and they have sweet well behaved children and her friends moms at playgroups look at her like shes the devil. I'm so embarrassed I have two other grown up ish boys 17-18 so she's like an only child. Never had this with the boys tho!

Sounds like she is tired. Can you get her to sleep in the car or pushchair if she won't sleep at home?

My DD1 has moments like this and I find them so frustrating and exhausting. I feel for you.

I'm sorry you feel like this. If it helps both of mine have been through horrible stages and it feels like forever when it is happening but then all of a sudden they grow out of it and you look back and realise it wasn't that long at all.
It does sound like she is tired so if you sort the sleeping out maybe the behavour ( and your tiredness) wouldn't be so bad, what does she wake up for?

She goes to sleep at 7 on the dot after an hour of wind down bath bottle and has done this since tiny religiously. She goes to sleep fab but she shares a room with us no room. Can't say why she wakes she whimpers through the night and then will wake and stay awake for an hour or two then go back to sleep she won't sleep in with us she just keeps kissing and hugging chatting wriggling. Then when I'm so tired and can't take any more I put her back in her cot. Have tried giving water but she wakes wet. Sometimes she will sleep all night then others want to get up at 4 or 5 and as I say she has refused to have a nap for the last 6 months and if she does fall asleep in the car she will not settle in the evening until ten! But by 6 I've had enough and cant wait for bed just for a little rest from her. She can be loving and nice but it just seems like she loves to awful she is learning about feelings and keeps saying I'm sad or what's the matter mommy and u say Tia making mommy sad not listening ect. Don't work tho! Thanks I know it's something she has to go through and people keep saying it will get better but as soon as she's out of one bad phase another instantly replaces it. Thanks x

My dd is 3 in May and can be like this. I find when she's tired its so much worse. She is so strong willed and a very dominant character in our household. Time out has helped a lot and the last few months has been easier. Don't give her lots of choices...I think it makes things worse...If our dd is playing up getting dressed, I say you get dressed now or its time out...(have to do school run with older ds, so mornings are awful is she's playing up). Just be firm and remember you are the boss. Sometimes I think my dd wants to be the mummy...maybe its a girl thing.

Haha yes she is just as you described very strong willed always has been and wants to do everything herself or at least help! I only give her a choice of two ie which coat this or this which shoes or which bowl or cup it's supposed to help them feel more in control. Choices are not the problem tbh it's everything in between ho hum I think a few early nights might help me manage to handle situations better told dh I'm sleeping on the sofa for the next week just to try and ignore the wakings and see if that helps. Thanks for your help ladies x x