How do you reward/consequence your Yr 1 child's behaviour?

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I am struggling with DD's behaviour at the moment - she has always been quite highly strung but since starting year 1, her behaviour has been so volatile. It doesnt help that she is shattered after a year of sleeping issues but that is something that may or may not get resolved.

I'm not sure how to consequence her for poor behaviour - I have taken her away from some situations ( ie gone hime) and stopped after tea treats ( choc or biscuits) and I reward where possible (computer time has to be earned, she does baking, sticker books, out for cake etc)

What do you do for your child of this age? She is a very young year 1, late August birthday.

We do a marble pot - good behaviour equals marble, negative a marble gets taken away. When the marble pot is full - they get a treat either a day out or new toy. Something that they get to choose but with a price limit that you can afford. It seems to work really well as sometimes I think they act up to get out of a situation so you taking her home might be exactly what she wants.

Hope that helps

thank you Tiger. I had thought about a pasta jar. you could be right about acting up to get out of it. We've noticed over the last few days she has started lying to us too - very small, trivial things, but I want to halt it in its tracks.

We do pasta pot with ds yr 1. I buy little treats such as Lego mini figures and also stuff I may have given him anyway like new books. We tend to choose a couple of behavioural things we want to change and reward, reward, reward. At the moment pasta goes in the pot for staying in bed til 6am (he wakes as early as 5 sometimes) and putting his own shoes on without moaning. Works a treat. Our paediatrician (he has AS) told us to ignore absolutely all bad behaviour (unless dangerous, then remove the danger with no fuss) so we try to stick to the positive as much as we can.

sounds good, shopping. there are many things we need to change, but I suppose the main one is doing as she is asked the first time without fuss. We seem to have a battle over everything, from the minute she gets up. I know a lot of it stems from her tiredness, but the sleeping issues are not going away so we need to look at how she deals with it.

I'll be sorting a pasta pot tomrrow!

brill - we did 'doing as we ask first time' a while ago. Try really hard to spot lots of lots of times when she does it. With ds it would be things like 'there's a cake in the kitchen ds, come and get it' just so that we could start off with some successes. Don't think we've made any long term difference with that one though tbh but we've had massive improvements on practical stuff that he didn't want to do like getting dressed, shoes on, getting in and out of the bath when asked etc etc.

If you're looking for an overall improvement then something like the pasta pot would probably be a good idea.

ATM we don't have long term, ongoing behaviour problems so we punish a particular problem at the time that it's happened - ds (1 or 2) has a warning and is asked to stop whatever it is, if it continues then they end up with a punishment. Until now it's been sitting in the corner (for as many minutes as their age), but that seems very demeaning for ds1 now (he's 6) so he has to sit on the bottom step (same rules with time) to think about what he's done. At the end of the time I always expect an apology.

well, we started this morning, and DD managed to earn 4 before school, by helping out with her sister, getting dressed without fuss, doing her hair and getting coat and shoes first time. It's exhausting noticing every little thing, but (said tentatively!!) so far, so good. she was very proud of herself, and got an extra story before bed tonight.

Sounds like you're off to a great start

thanks!
It's like dieting though, isn't it? Got to keep up the motivation!!!

Oh yes - don't waiver one bit.

Remember the saying, "give an inch and they'll take a mile"

I have an immature yr one boy, and he has his computer time sanctioned for bad behavior.