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Separation anxiety in DS age 7?

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tiredteddy · 02/02/2012 17:16

My DS1 is 7 in year 3. He really struggles when leaving me. Dropping off at school is still difficult. Some good days some bad. He is clingy, tearful and upset. He behaves the same way when dropping off at after school clubs. I know he is happy at school and fine when I've gone. He also finds it hard being left at birthday parties, he needs to be left with the adult in charge and for them to acknowledge him to reassure him that there it someone in charge of him. I feel like none of peers are like this anymore. I know I shouldn't compare but he is a really big boy and comes across as confident. It is all just about leaving me. I don't go to class assemblies and performances as he says he doesn't want to have to say goodbye to me again.

I just don't know how to manage him when he is like this. If I am firm it just gets worse and if I sympathise he just gets worse. I am starting to feel embarrassed which I know I shouldnt.

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JuliaScurr · 02/02/2012 17:23

Dd developed separation anxiety & school refusal aged 5 ish, finally cured at different school aged 9. We found youngminds.co.uk very helpful. The Head of the last school had a good record of dealing with anxious kids which was vital in curing dd.
Good luck

tiredteddy · 03/02/2012 10:32

Thanks Juliascurr, I feel I have tried dealing with him everyday I can think of and nothing seems to help. I also find it really hard to pinpoint what triggers his anxiety. It's getting me down and I know I am not dealing with him very well. I will look at your link thank you.

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JuliaScurr · 03/02/2012 12:48

tired hope you get some help; it's a hideous situation

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