6 yr old behaviour probs

[n4t4lie]

how do i start? my 6 yr old is very head strong, knows what she wants and wont stop at nothing to get what she wants. She can snap in and out of her positive and negative behaviour with a click of a finger, she can really upset myself and her older brother. We have wetting problems in which she has seen a consultant but apparently there are no medical reasons for this. Ive tried to get her assessed by the refered specialists from the doctor where they say there is unsifficient evidence even though they wont see her. Im supposed to be in a parent partnership but have not heard a thing since i signed up. Im at the end of my teather and feel i get no help, i dont want to make the situation worse for her or myself. Amy ideas pls?

Hi n4tlie - I would try and start a behaviour/reward programme.

Get into the habit of ignoring bad behaviour as much as possible but really rewarding her when she's good.

If she does clubs after school/weekends, explain that she won't be allowed to go if her behaviour doesn't improve and then carry it out.

For everything, carry through with the punishment to make her realise that she cannot keep upsetting you and her brother.

Before you do this though, double check she's generally happy and not being bullied. When my dd's behaviour changed late last year, she confessed it was because she was so upset about how her friends were treating her. Once we sorted that problem out, her behaviour improved.

Wetting can be an obvious sign of stress or simply a sign of power.
Check out www.eric.org.uk for information about urinesis and its causes and solutions.

Sorry - it's enuresis, not urinesis!!!